DH and the Flu Shot

ugh!!! so yesterday, my oldest DS was due for this yearly check up, so i figured i would get him and my 3 year old DS their flu shots while i was there.
SOO i asked DH to go with me as "backup" with the 2 of them getting shots. My 3 year old went first and did great! a few tears, but was over it fast. The 7 year old FLIPS out, like i've never seen him!! Screaming, kicking, crying, swinging his arms all around " I DON;T WANT TO!!!!" all that stuff like really freaking out!! i felt bad, but we were there- i wasn't gonna make another appointment for a 3 second shot.
SOOO instead of helping out and holding him or whatever, DH starts like arguing with me " He doesn't want to do it!" " Does he really need it??" " He's skinny, it hurts his arm.." " This is your idea" " Just come back later..." UGH!!!! He's gonna do the same thing no matter when we come!!
It just annoyed me SO SO much!!! yes, its sad-- but DS has to learn that sometimes you have to "suck it up" and do things you don't really want to do. DH said i need to have more sympathy. I do... but i also had to take a grow hormone shot EVERY DAY from age 7 until i was like 15 or 16.... so to me one little shot a year doesn't warrant screaming your head off and kicking your mom HAHAH
Thanks for listening!! Feels good to vent!!

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I would have been livid that he didn't back you up. I would've said fine, we can do it another day but I'm making the appointment now and you'll be the one bringing him, alone. Sometimes dads just can't handle it when their kids have a hard time but they need to suck it up bc no one is giving us moms an out every time our kid melts down or cries or goes through a tough experinence.

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DH and the Flu Shot

My 5yo was like that with the kicking and screaming. I was mortified. The only upside was she was so distraught she barely even noticed when they actually did it. When they said she was done she immediately stopped crying and couldn't believe that was it. My 3yo didn't even flinch. I wouldn't bother bringing dh in the future. The nurses and doctors are so good at our practice i don't worry about it.

DH and the Flu Shot

Flucking husbands. Id have lost my sh!t. You're a good wife for not hissing every obscenity imaginable at him and telling him to get the eff out because that's how I would have handled the situation. I can literally see myself whispering "go fluck yourself you flucking fluck" and shooing him out of the office. You know, so the doctor wouldn't hear.

You're an awesome mama and that was definitely a good job!

DH and the Flu Shot

Ugh, my dh does stuff like that too and I hate it. My dd got her shot almost 2 weeks ago and we JUST finally got her bandaid from it off. Every time I would try to get it off dd would FREAK out and dh would give in and be like "just do it another day." Meanwhile I was worried her skin was rotting away under a soggy crusty bandaid for 2 weeks. It frustrating for me because the longer we prolong it, the worse she acts when we try to get it off. It's good you stuck to your guns and had him get the shot while you were there. Otherwise he might have acted even worse next time trying to get out of it.

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Does your DH have amy medical or needle anxiety of his own?
I know sometimes my own medical anxiety will cause me to project that onto medical things for my daughter.
I sometimes have to have DH take her for things like blood work because my own anxiety kicks in when SHE gets upset about a medical procedure and I find myself wanting to just say forget it...she doesn't need this done.
Its very bad and its the last thing I want to project onto my daughter so I often have him take her to appts where I feel it might be an issue.
Just another thing to consider....

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Oy! That’s why i go alone... dh wouldn’t argue but he wouldn’t help me either. It’s the most frustrating thing ever. I feel you sister

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you husband should have helped and been more supportive.

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Lol!
Men are the worst with needles!
I’ve seen full grown, tattooed guys pass out with itsy bitsy IVs.
I’m sorry!