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sunny
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Birthday party/school question

Dd just started kindergarten and her birthday is the end of November. Do you think it's okay to not invite any of the kids in her class to her party?
Without the 11 girls in her class, she would have 11 kids, which I think is plenty. There would be 2 kids from her school, but in different classes that we would invite because she sees them outside of school for playdates and stuff.

What do you think? I don't want her to be excluded from anything because we didn't invite the kids in her class.

Posted 10/3/10 9:00 PM
 

twicethefun
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Re: Birthday party/school question

I honestly would invite the other girls in her class. Not because she might get excluded later in the year from other parties, but because it is a good opportunity for her to get to know her classmates outside of school and for you to get to know the parents.

However I do not see anything wrong with not inviting them.

Posted 10/3/10 9:09 PM
 

LSP2005
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Re: Birthday party/school question

Posted by twicethefun

I honestly would invite the other girls in her class. Not because she might get excluded later in the year from other parties, but because it is a good opportunity for her to get to know her classmates outside of school and for you to get to know the parents.

However I do not see anything wrong with not inviting them.



ITA

Posted 10/3/10 9:37 PM
 

AnnBrunoXO
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Re: Birthday party/school question

I think its fine to not invite any of the kids from her class to her birthday party. If you have enough children already - why stress yourself out inviting more..lol Honestly - I think they are so young at this age, it really doens't make a difference whether you invite them all or not......especially if you have enough children between family and friends already.

I am in favor of making cupcakes and celebrating her birthday with her classmates in her classroom tho!

Posted 10/3/10 11:31 PM
 

sunny
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Re: Birthday party/school question

I will def bring cupcakes to school. The reason why i am considering not inviting them is because DD picked an expensive place so if we invite too many the price is ridiculous.
I could just have it somewhere else....

Posted 10/4/10 7:18 AM
 

GoldenRod
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Re: Birthday party/school question

There's roughly 25 kids in a class. I have definitely not been to anywhere near 25 b-day parties a year. That means that MOST kids aren't having parties with the classmates.

Also, check with the teacher about the cupcakes. I know for DS's school, we definitely can't bring in cupcakes.

Posted 10/4/10 8:54 AM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: Birthday party/school question

Since kids talk, I'd either invite the whole class or only non-school friends.

Most school parties started in 1st grade, with a few in Kindergarten. This year, you can get away with it.

Posted 10/4/10 9:16 AM
 

HillandRon
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Re: Birthday party/school question

I would invite the entire class also.

Also, For birthdays we are not able to bring in anything that is made at home. We have to bring in store bought and then have to get the label approved by the parents in writing that it is ok for their child to have if there is an allergy. The school does not want to be liable for anything...

I would definately check.

Posted 10/4/10 1:35 PM
 

mommy2bella
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Re: Birthday party/school question

Posted by twicethefun

I honestly would invite the other girls in her class. Not because she might get excluded later in the year from other parties, but because it is a good opportunity for her to get to know her classmates outside of school and for you to get to know the parents.

However I do not see anything wrong with not inviting them.



I totally agree with this.

Posted 10/4/10 3:18 PM
 

mommy2bella
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Re: Birthday party/school question

Posted by GoldenRod

There's roughly 25 kids in a class. I have definitely not been to anywhere near 25 b-day parties a year. That means that MOST kids aren't having parties with the classmates.

Also, check with the teacher about the cupcakes. I know for DS's school, we definitely can't bring in cupcakes.



Bella was in a pre-k class with like 22 kids (some PT and other FT) We went to at least 15 parties, if not more last year. A lot of people ARE throwing parties. Bella's was on the first day of school, so we were out for this year...but next year we will probably have one.

Posted 10/4/10 3:20 PM
 

sunny
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Re: Birthday party/school question

Thanks everyone! I am still deciding, especially since I told dd we may not invite her class and she said "I already told them all about it!"Chat Icon

Her school does allow cupcakes.

Posted 10/4/10 5:06 PM
 

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Re: Birthday party/school question

I posted a similar Q back in September....

We just had my DS's 5th b-day party Oct 2 and after much deliberation decided to skip inviting the class this this early on this year...

My DS is still very close with his pre-k classmates and as it was we had 24 children at our house ( and over 30 adults) Ironically one of the boys from pre-k is also in his K class and he was sent an invitation to the house, but aside from that we did not extend the invite to the class....


It really came down to space with us as we were having a home party, but it can be so costly to have a party out that I think its completely reasonable to skip the class this year (I'm sure next year and beyond this will not be an option Chat Icon )

Posted 10/4/10 10:18 PM
 

mypumpkin
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Re: Birthday party/school question

My oldest son's birthday is in September so for kindergarten I invited the whole class. It was great because he got invited to everyone else's parties for the rest of the year even if they only invited a handful of kids. The only problem was I ended up with 34 kids at the party!! I never would have thought so many from school would have came! Thankfully the place was really cheap! After that year I realized it was totally acceptable to invite only the boys if you have a boy and visa versa which cut the cost in half!!
If you leave the whole class out I don't even think the moms will notice. Kindergarten is the one year where the kids aren't as aware of things going on outside of school.

Posted 10/4/10 10:22 PM
 

Elizabeth
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Re: Birthday party/school question

My DS bday is the end of October and having the kids from class was really a great way to meet the kids and the parents. Bc when they are small, you kind of have to like the parents too esp if you are going to start allowing them to go out on playdates and such. But I wouldn't break the bank on an expensive place to do this. It's fine not to have a bday party with kids from school. I don't know about the inviting only one gender. My DS probably would be fine with that but with my DD, half her friends are the boys so it's not always the best rule of thumb. IMO all or none unless it's one of her good friends from class.

Posted 10/5/10 10:14 AM
 
 

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