Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

We really just want to do immediate family and then family who has kids, but Im finding it hard to not assume people will be PO that we didnt invite them. Im sure, they probably dont want to actually attend a 1st birthday party, BUT I know they will still be PO. Or they will wonder why X was invited and not them.

Like DHs step cousin has a baby, I want them to come, but I will in turn have to invite her parents and his step fathers other sister and her family, why???????

I already said Im not inviting my mothers side, there are 4 young kids on that side that I would inviite, but to invite them means inviting an extra 20 people.

I know that this probably sounds ridiculous to some people, but this is how my family is.... we had 70 people at DS christening and that was "limited" in a way and I had extended cousins and a close family friend saying they wish they had been invited.

anyone else have this issue? How do you handle this? I really want it to be more for the kids

Message edited 3/15/2011 10:30:09 AM.

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

YES! YES! YES!

I especially hate that....
If you invite A, u must invite B.
If you invite B, u must invite C.

And so on.

I want to keep it small, but some people are already asking when the party is (and they were not people I planned on inviting).

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

YESSS

i am having such a horrible time with their 1st birthday. everyone is giving me cr@p..

now i just can't wait till its done because no more parties for a long time. first the christening and now their birthday.. TOO MUCH!!

we had a big christening, and are having a smaller 1st birthday.

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

We just had over 100 people at ours

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

I did, i invited over 50 people to DD's 1st birthday party, some people were to make them happy that they were invited so i would hear it if i didn't and 9 people show up....but us and those 9 people had a blast...the other 41 people missed out....

Have a good time with the people that do come!

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

Thank goodness it isnt just me!!!

Why di people care?!?! If I had no kids and was invited to a 1st bday party (that wasnt say my niece or nephew) I be annoyed hehe

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

Posted by jgl

Thank goodness it isnt just me!!!

Why di people care?!?! If I had no kids and was invited to a 1st bday party (that wasnt say my niece or nephew) I be annoyed hehe

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

we have the same problem and its just intensified b/c we are living with my parents while we save money for a house. Same thing happened with his christening. Really do all his great aunts have to come?

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

I did not feel like I had to invite certain people. I kept it really small. Immediate family only.

My parents, my sisters and their kids, and SIL,BIL&Niece. That way no one else could be offended. No aunts, uncles, family friends, etc.

A small birthday party is fine, if that's what you want to do. Especially after a large Christening.

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

Ugh...I hate doing events because my husbands family is so big. So everything is always a huge event.

To nip things in the bud a little we are having DD's party at my Moms house. In this way people won't feel the need to just be hanging around all day even when the party is over. Also I am doing it at my moms because I want control over everything, DH's family like to take over things and do what they like. I will not let this happen.

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

I just posted yesterday about DS's impending 1st bday party in June. i asked what we should do b/c we had a 60-70person Christening in Feb. Nobody replied, so I thought I was nutz.

Re: Anyonelse struggling with the feeling they HAVE to invite people to a 1st bday party (people who really dont need to be there)?

We had almost 70 people...I was shocked at who really wanted to be a part of DD's special day....

I was hoping to keep it small too - but after is now said and done - I am very glad we invited all that we did. It was well worth it, it was a great celebration.