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Re: Am I being dramatic?
Posted by NervousNell
Posted by Jacksmommy
Thank you all! After a day of crying literally, I feel better today. I put it out there to my brother that it was important for me to celebrate with family this year. He didn’t respond so it is what it is. There is no way my husband can take off. My father won’t fly up. He only went down two weeks ago. I begged him not to go until after Hanukkah but it didn’t work. After speaking with him yesterday, I def think he just wants to be alone and grieve and my siblings and I were crowding him and too worried about him here. I think this year I am going to take my boys to kalahari or something. They are grieving too and it has been a rough couple of years. We need to do something fun. Part of my sadness is that I have such fond memories of big thanksgiving family dinners as a kid and it’s not that way anymore. That’s not what I envisioned for my children. But I need to stop expecting things and just take life how it comes.
I'm glad you are feeling better.
Everyone handles things differently and maybe your brother just needs to be alone this year too, like you dad. Or maybe he's just being a jerk by not answering you when you reached out to him about your feelings.
But either way, I think it's good that you are taking matters into your own hands and looking to take the boys away to get their mind of things- and yours too. If you go to Kalahari, you will all have a great time. They have a thanksgiving buffet there too.
I think everyone grieves the loss of family traditions and how the holiday were when they were kids.
It's hard. Growing up and losing family members and traditions is not easy.
The key is to start your own traditions, like you are doing now. Not that it will ever be the same, but just know that what you are doing now is what your kids will look back on when they are older and say- wow I used to LOVE when we did such and such for Thanksgiving, the holidays, etc
ITA. Just think one day your boys are going to be reliving this year's Thanksgiving with their kids and thinking how much fun it was. There's still time for big Thanksgiving dinners down the line. I know it still hurts and I don't blame you for feeling that way, but like you said, it is what it is. You can't change it, just how you react to it. I hope you guys have a blast.
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