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Picking up the phone

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anjerandunder

Does anyone ever get the urge to call their lost loved one, like when something good happens and then realize you can't? I had that happen the other day and actually hit the speed dial only to realize mom wouldn't answer. It was not as exciting as it had been when I first wanted to call her. Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 1:01 PM
Beth1210

all the time- I used to call my Mom and tell her things about my Job- and now I call my dad instead- he tries

 
Posted 8/1/06 1:10 PM
anjerandunder


Posted by Beth1210

all the time- I used to call my Mom and tell her things about my Job- and now I call my dad instead- he tries



its so not the same calling my dad..Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 1:47 PM
Beth1210

nope- it's not the same when I call mine- but it's some one to call

 
Posted 8/1/06 2:14 PM
oneday

Yes! Not as much anymore, but especially in the first few years I would want to tell her about something that happened, or what someone said, or ask her a question about how she would do something, or how to cook a certain thing. For a split second I would think "I'll call mom" and then remember that she wasn't there. It would kill me each time!!Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 2:16 PM
antoinette

There is so many things I wish I could tell her, but some how I feel like she already knows because I feel like she is always with me.

 
Posted 8/1/06 3:32 PM
anjerandunder


Posted by antoinette

There is so many things I wish I could tell her, but some how I feel like she already knows because I feel like she is always with me.



i agree but it would still be nice to hear her voice and excitement along with mine. Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 4:28 PM
stardiva80

whenever i come home i check my messages expecting there to be one from her. Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 5:02 PM
kazadoodle

I want to pick up the phone everyday when I am at work and call my mom at work. IT was a daily ritual, for her to call me a few times a day at work and I would also call her a few times a day at work . Picking up the phone is a or was a ritual that I never thought to do , I just did it . I actually still have not cancelled my mothers cells phone and pay the $ 50 a month just so I can hear her voice still.. Chat Icon

 
Posted 8/1/06 6:51 PM
Beth1210

I used to call my Mom around 3:30pm 4 from work to make the time pass

 
Posted 8/1/06 7:06 PM
Kelly9904

I remember one of the nurses telling me thats when its hardest, the first time you pick up the phone to call them and realize you cant!

I still cry when I am stressed or happy because she is the first person I want to consult. Right now I am near tears thinking of how much I need her here right now.

I am lucky that I get along so well with my dad. But my mom over the years became my best friend and now more often than not I feel really lost without her!

 
Posted 8/4/06 8:15 PM
Meaghan729

my 50 year old uncle recently passed away suddenly of a heart attack -

I was so upset, I had a voicemail from him on - I deleted it right away (which i NEVER do) and said, oh i'll call him tomorrow - but he died before I called him.

I still do this with my dad who died 7 years ago - everytime something happens, or I am lost driving - i want to pick up the phone and ask - i get so mad bc i know he would be able to help me and he cant.

Message edited 8/5/2006 7:51:10 AM.

 
Posted 8/5/06 7:50 AM