Feel cheated and jipped....

Today I went to my Best friends daughters b day party. All the grandparents were there for both sides. I nearly lost it, I am so upset, now even more, my sister has a newborn baby, and it makes me sick and saddened so much that my niece will never know there Grandma and Grandpa, there were these grandparents and great grandparents fawning over her. Jealous I am not, UPSET I am. I told my friend my allergies were bothering me, but I am so very upset. It will never happen for my kids when I have them, nope no grandparents, no great grandparents...NOTHING. How am I going to get thru this... I never thought it would hurt this much.

Message edited 7/30/2006 8:49:31 PM.

I feel this way too, although my Dh has a lot of family, moms and 2 stepmoms and dad and grandmas ets

On my side there is no one. My mom died and then my Grandma and grandpa on my mothers side died all of whom I was really close with. My dad I dont really talk to and neither his side of the family. My son will never get to meet the most important people in my life other than Dh and my brother. Its soo depressing. I always show my son pictures of my mom and say thats your grandma in heaven. He doesnt understand yet he is only 13 months but someday he will and I will make sure he knows them thru pictures and videos and stories.

You will have to do the same, make sure you keep the memory alive and make sure your children know them thru your stories.

i don't even have words of encouragement for you because my heart breaks every time i hear that someone has to go through what you went through today. i feel as if anyone who still has their grandparents or parents takes advantage of the time they have with them. they just have no idea how much it hurts. or how much they really have. i just think its an awful world that we all have to feel this way.

I feel that way all the time!
One of my friends had her baby shower and I helped plan it, I can remember thinkign how unfair it was that her mom, who barely cared that she was going to have a grandchild was around for that yet my mom would never be there when it was my turn!

Its hard and I think we will forever feel cheated and jipped out of those experiences!!!