Cemetary visiting

i just went 2 weeks ago for the first time since the funeral. It was for her unveiling- i was dreading it and i couldnt stop sobbing I dont think i can go again. my mom lost her parents when she was a child and she never went- much too upsetting for her. so i figure she understands why i just cant do it. I hate thinking of her there- does anyone else agree?

I went once in 6 years. I can't do it. Its enough my dad's on my mind every day. he wouldnt want us to visit him anyway - he wanted his ashes spread, but crazy grandma insisted we bury them.

My dad is gone over 20 years and i still break down when I get to the site, but i do not cry on the regular anymore so when I go there I guess its a bit cathartic... for you hon..