Cemetary visiting

Will it ever get any easier to go visit? I went to see mom yesterday and its been over a year and I still cry as soon as I pull in.

I am the same way and my mom is gone only 4 months. I am ok when we pull into the cemetery and while I am there but as soon as we start to leave is when I lose it. We went about 2 weeks ago and it was the first time I was seeing my mom's stone and I cried the whole time I was there.

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Posted by nylisa

I am the same way and my mom is gone only 4 months. I am ok when we pull into the cemetery and while I am there but as soon as we start to leave is when I lose it. We went about 2 weeks ago and it was the first time I was seeing my mom's stone and I cried the whole time I was there.

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Thanks. Right now it is harder for me to come to terms with her death because I am due with my first child in 4 weeks.

she'll be there for you. you'll see in some way shape or form that she'll be there.

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Posted by anjerandunder

she'll be there for you. you'll see in some way shape or form that she'll be there.

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it hasnt gotten any easier for me...but s to you!

I have only been once- my mom didn't really believe in it- I didn't really like it- it was weirder for me seeing my grandma name there- since it's a family plot- and she is still alive

but we also couldn't find it the first time we went so that kind of broke the ice and I was walking around fixing everyone flowers and plants that had fallen over

I stopped going to both, it is too difficult.. my dad does have a tree in the park because he was in Viet-Nam, I visit that when I am there...

I haven't gone in awhile. I feel pretty bad about this actually.

I go all the time. Actually makes me feel better.

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Posted by mishy

I stopped going to both, it is too difficult.. my dad does have a tree in the park because he was in Viet-Nam, I visit that when I am there...

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I am a bad kid, I have not gone since my father's funeral in 2003. He is right next to my mom and that is a bit too much for me. Also, I live 600 miles away so that presents a problem....thats a poor excuse, i believe i am just avoiding the cemetary.

my mom passed away 10 years ago, and i still cry as soon as i pull in. i know how you feel.

my mom passed 22 yrs ago and i have stopped going. Mainly b/c it is a far drive and i was finding myself making the long trip out there and then getting to her plot, getting all choked up, and then leaving. It was totally worthless, i am able to talk to her more easily while just laying in bed at night. Hugs to you..

My mom will be deceased for 15 years on August 31st. I still have a hard time going to see her.

I have only visited once and its been over a year. Part of it is I feel especially guilty cause I haven't been able to get her a stone yet. But also in the 12 years my fathers been gone, I was never able to visit his. 3000 miles was too far to travel. So I have never had a 'habit' of doing it.

I don't really go. I don't feel a strong connection to my parents at the cemetary. I think it is great for people who find comfort in it though, and in general, it can be a peaceful place to be with your thoughts and your wonderful memories of thise you love.

I go regularly. At first I cried going there. Now 20 months later, I find it comforting. My dad and I spend time decorating the grave with flowers, holiday decorations, etc.

Its different for everyone, my brother goes regularly but I know its hard for him still. and my other brother doesnt go that often.

my mom died 5 years ago and i still can't go.