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MrsBlueSash	Posted by kdelace Posted by Beth1210 I have to agree with Lori- I would do anything to spend 5 more minutes with my Mom- and if she was still alive -I would do anything I could to have a relantionship with her it upsets me to hear that your Mom is alive and you guys can't work it out- yeah i know what you mean beth but sometimes its a lot easier said than done. Like Kelly said, our mother is a very toxic, selfish person. I out of all of my siblings tried to reach out to her over the years and had a civil relationship with her. I went up to visit her upstate... this was until I got married. She called me when i wasnt home.left me a msg saying she wasnt coming to the wedding b/c SHE felt uncomfortable because of my fathers family & my friends that she doesnt know. She sent me a gift. and I have not heard from her since. no cards phone calls. I sent her a thank you asking whay she hasnt returned my calls. NOTHING! W T F did I do to her??? last straw was when i was separating from my husband at the time. probably the most painful time in my life and NOTHING!!!!!!!! she knew what I was going through (my other sister has some communication with her) and not even card a phone call a message or even an e-mail. After that I vowed that I was done with her. So sometimes in life, as much as they are your parents by blood, it is better off not having a relationship with them then a toxic strained relationship. It is sad though.. Mothers Day doesnt mean much to me- except now that my sister is a mom it has meaning... Planning my wedding with no mom- very difficult. But my dad is both roles for me and his fiancee is an amazing woman.. God I rambled.. I guess this is a sore topic for me even after all of these years... I feel I could have written this. Thankfully I have my Dad-om (my name for both his roles) and his wife like you. Posted 7/24/06 12:45 PM
newhome	Posted by robynfs My mother left me and my dad. My dad was everything to me untill he passed 6 years ago. People just dont understand how I have a mother out there on LI and I haven't seen her in 18 years. But I think until you are abondoned by the person who is supposed to love you most in this world...you really can't relate to why I have no intention of ever knowing her again. I have lived the last 6 years of my life with no parents and no siblings...my husband left me and she knows all this...and zero contact. Im better off alone....and that's the sad truth. This is kind of like me. Both my parents are out there, both divorced from each other- bitterly- and both dislike me very much.... My mother is a very self absorbed, selfish, cold, emotionless human being. And my father used to be so wonderful to me. But he married a horrible woman who poisoned him against me. He sided with her and that was that. I am horrible and dead to him now even though I have done everything in my life to make them proud of me. Everyday is challenging. I look in the mirror and wonder if it is me... Is there something wrong with me that my blood parents choose not to be in my presence? For added sadness, they are in my sisters life and choose to bad mouth me every chance they get. My mother never says she is proud of me or my ds. It is crushing. I can't be happy unless I have their love and I trult will never have it. Posted 7/27/06 9:28 PM
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