| Posted By |
Message |
| Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 |
| Beth1210 |
you have FM
Posted 6/21/06 10:27 PM
|
| lipglossjunky73 |
Posted by robynfs
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by robynfs
I lost my dad (he raised me) 5 years ago August to a sudden massive stroke. I was 25 he was 52.
Hope you dont mind if I join....my mother has not been in my life for almost 20 years.
I am sort of in your situation...my mom gave us up 21 years ago and we grew up with my dad and an evil stepmother....no female influence at all...so hard. Even harder that it's so hard to explain to people that my mom just "isn't in my life"...
Very similar situation....I had an evil stepmother as well...we have not spoken since my father's funeral! It was so hard not having a mom, and now with my dad gone I truly feel like an orphan at 30 years old!!
Hello - I grew up not knowing what was wrong with my mother. When you are young, you don't know anything about mental illness.
She was very abusive - physically and emotionally. She was married twice - my dad, and then another man who she had a child with. They both left her because they couldnt deal with her, and I had to live with her everyday. I did visit my dad on weeeknds, which served as a repite for me, and I have a stepmom who has been in my life since I was 9.
I wouldnt say my stepmom is evil - she loves me and means well, but she never understood me or what I was going thru - especially when I was 18 and decided I had enough and had to leave my mom (and my 8 yr old sister) and finally heal myself and my wounds. My stpmother made the healing process very difficult and came between my dad and me a lot, so I wound up not being close to any family member - I guess I am closest to my grandma - my dads mom, but I have been judged a lot in my life, so it took me a while to heal and grow....
Anyway, i tried to patch things up between me and my mom, but she's mentally ill - bipolar and schizotypal, and refuses to treat herself or get better - she blames me for her behavior - or did last time I spoke to her 2 years ago after spending years trying to find a healing place for both of us to talk....
you ladies touched me with your stories....
Posted 6/23/06 1:38 PM
|
| limomof1 |
Hello My name is Angela, I lost my mom five years ago, at the age of twenty three, two years into my marriage, and five weeks after my first baby girl was born.
My mom was fourty seven and was in a car accident, My father and nephew at the time who was 9 where with her but they survived, and my father moved a girl in two months after the loss, he also kicked my grandparents out, which where my mom's parents out of his house, which had an apartment attached to it.
And I didnt talk to him for years, he married last year and lives in florida, my sister and I dont talk. I have a husband and daughter, and a home, I have my husbands family, but i have a loss that can never be fixed.
Posted 6/26/06 12:25 PM
|
| babydream |
Laurie, age 25.
I lost my mom in April to breast cancer that spread to her liver, bones, and brain. She was 55 years old.I was 7 months pregnant.
Posted 7/20/06 9:25 PM
|
| anjerandunder |
Posted by babydream
Laurie, age 25.
I lost my mom in April to breast cancer that spread to her liver, bones, and brain. She was 55 years old.I was 7 months pregnant.
 
Posted 7/21/06 10:08 AM
|
| Gumpslilqtpie |
Hi my name is Kim! I lost my mother to Metastatic Vulvar Cancer in April of 1999.
Posted 7/25/06 12:39 PM
|
| kdelace |
wow, i have tears in my eyes reading all of these stories.. and cancer seems to be in each one..
although I havent lost my mom physically, i dont have my mom in my life and it is very SAD.. LONG story.. and believe me, tried to patch things up over the years. She definatey has a mental illness is narcassistic and selfish....
i know some of you wish you could do anything to have your moms back. I just never had a relationship with my mom so i dont know how it is.
my dad remarried and she turned out to be pure evil. i still have to deal with her sinc EI have two sisters - daugthers of her evil higness and my father..
my dad is engaged again- she is a true angel that has done more for my family and us thanmy REAL mom or stepmom.
it is sad though especially whenI got married, was going through an annulment and every friggin Mothers Day.
So i hope you dont mind if I join this board...
Posted 7/25/06 4:58 PM
|
| mommy2bella |
Posted by kdelace
wow, i have tears in my eyes reading all of these stories.. and cancer seems to be in each one..
although I havent lost my mom physically, i dont have my mom in my life and it is very SAD.. LONG story.. and believe me, tried to patch things up over the years. She definatey has a mental illness is narcassistic and selfish....
i know some of you wish you could do anything to have your moms back. I just never had a relationship with my mom so i dont know how it is.
my dad remarried and she turned out to be pure evil. i still have to deal with her sinc EI have two sisters - daugthers of her evil higness and my father..
my dad is engaged again- she is a true angel that has done more for my family and us thanmy REAL mom or stepmom.
it is sad though especially whenI got married, was going through an annulment and every friggin Mothers Day.
So i hope you dont mind if I join this board...
me heart you sis...you shouldered the brunt of it and are like a mother to us younger ones...
Posted 7/25/06 8:00 PM
|
| TheInfamousOTG |
Hi my name is Brian. I lost my mom to Breast Cancer. It will be 15 years on August 31st. I was 15 years old.
Posted 7/27/06 8:30 PM
|
| stardiva80 |
do you feel like it got less raw over the years?
Posted 7/28/06 9:08 AM
|
| kazadoodle |
 HI my name is kerri , I am 29 years old. My friend introduced me to this site a few days ago I have been hestitant to try it but i figured I should i think , I guess..
My mother passed away just over a year ago she was in a tragic car accident . I have been in denial since and feel very loss and that no one understands me here at home .
Posted 7/30/06 10:08 PM
|
| stardiva80 |
Im so sorry for your loss. I completely understand what you're going through. As much as denial doesnt make it go away, i do think it helps me sometimes get through the motions of life. does that make sense? sorry its past my bedtime. Anyway, i think that the best thing for girls like us is to talk with others in similar situations. I hope this site helps you as it has for me.
Posted 7/30/06 11:03 PM
|
| madden7706 |
My name is Robyn and I lost my mom 9 years ago this August 30th to Leukemia. I just got married a few weeks ago and it was the best day of my life because she was with me more then ever. I miss everything about her - the way she felt, smelt, spoke, loved. I miss talking with her and the safety and security I felt when she was around. I think about how much she would have loved this time in her life and the things she is missing. There will always be an hole in my life because she is gone. My prayers and thoughts go out to everyone for their loss.
Thanks for listening!
Posted 7/31/06 3:20 PM
|
| kazadoodle |
thank you , I think this site is goign to be very helpful. I now feel I have people who understand .
Posted 7/31/06 6:44 PM
|
| oops123 |
hi im michelle and i lost my mom 4 years ago this august to breast&ovarian cancer, and theres not a day where i dont think about how different life would be if she was here, especially now that i have my own children.
i feel sad for them because i feel like i have to make up for the love my mom wouldve given them.
I was 26 when she died.
Posted 9/6/06 8:50 PM
|
| Reese1106 |
My name is Theresa. I lost my Mom to breast cancer on 2/22/02. She was originally diagnosed when I was 11 (she was 37) and they thought they got it all. She was diagnosed again at age 45 (I was 19) and she had a mastectomy. In October 2000, they found cancer cells on the breast bone underneath where she had the mastectomy. She went through another surgery and radiation but she just wasn't getting any better. In August 2001, the cancer had metastacized to her lungs, brain, and bones. She passed away almost exactly 6 months later. I'm getting married on 11/5 and I miss her more and more as that day gets closer.  My Mom was my best friend. I was 27 when she died.
Message edited 9/6/2006 9:59:06 PM.
Posted 9/6/06 9:51 PM
|
| married53005 |
Posted by robynfs
Posted by mommy2bellabean
Posted by robynfs
I lost my dad (he raised me) 5 years ago August to a sudden massive stroke. I was 25 he was 52.
Hope you dont mind if I join....my mother has not been in my life for almost 20 years.
I am sort of in your situation...my mom gave us up 21 years ago and we grew up with my dad and an evil stepmother....no female influence at all...so hard. Even harder that it's so hard to explain to people that my mom just "isn't in my life"...
Very similar situation....I had an evil stepmother as well...we have not spoken since my father's funeral! It was so hard not having a mom, and now with my dad gone I truly feel like an orphan at 30 years old!!
I have a very similiar situation. My mother decided to walk out on my father when I was 4, brothers were 3 and 18 months. Thank God I hadmy grandmother ( god rest her soul) and my godmother who took her place. (sort of) NOw that I'm a mother I despise her even more for leaving three beautiful children for her own selfish reasons.
Posted 9/7/06 2:07 PM
|
| TeddyBear922 |
Hi....I'm Chris
I lost my MOM to Breast Cancer Sept 1, 1997, I was 32 and my DAD to a broken heart on Aug 23, 1998.
My Dad had other health issues but nothing that he should have died from, he just gave up the will to take care of himself.
Also, I am not saying by any means that my parents were the lovey/dovey type. In fact, I probably only saw any affection between them a handful of times my whole life, but they did love each other in their own way.
Since the time my Dad passed away most of my family has stopped speaking to me. I only have a few cousins (one of which is part of LI Families) that are very close and those are the ones I can still count on. Mostly it's my friends and boyfriend of 7 years that are my close circle.
I could just keep going and going with this.....but I'll stop.
Chris
Edit: I typed the wrong date for my Mom.
Message edited 3/2/2007 9:11:33 AM.
Posted 9/7/06 5:46 PM
|
| danielleandscott |
My name is Scott. I lost my mom November 8th 2004 to Breast cancer. She put up a really great fight.
She was first diagnosed with Breast cancer in 1990. Had Chemo and her breast removed, and wasa fine for 13 years. She made it for Danielle and my wedding, but soon after she got sick again, and her cancer spread to her liver.
I just recently lost my father. He had congestive heart failure, and kidney Problems. He died on Augunst 27th, 2006 of Kidney Failure. The truth is my father died of a broken heart. Since my mom died, my father has never been the same
Posted 9/10/06 9:55 PM
|
| RandJ0806 |
Hi everyone.
I'm Robyn and I lost my mom to breast cancer 5 years ago.
I was 20.
Posted 9/11/06 2:01 PM
|
| Pages: 1 2 [3] 4 |