Whats the best relationship advice u ever got?

the best is always from my mom. And she always says that with love and patience anything is possible. SHe says that the man may be the head of a house but the woman is the neck and she can turn that head anyway she wants!

from my Dad, actually.

He said "Fighting over little things is a sign of immaturity. Let it go."

never go to bed angry

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

never go to bed angry

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Posted by sasha

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

never go to bed angry

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This is good in theory...but hard in reality.

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Posted by sasha

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Posted by SweetestOfPeas

never go to bed angry

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This is good in theory...but hard in reality.

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My mom has tons of advice since she married young adn was a hot head (like her daughter! )...she said that growing together is key - become interested in the same things but also have separate interests. And to think before you speak. Always talk to the other person the way you want that person to talk to you.

The best relationship advice I've gotten had nothing to do with love. I was with DH for two years and we had just moved in together. My landlord at that time was a really cool, early 30's SAHM. She asked me if I was ready for such a big step and what not and she said the biggest problem in relationships and marriage was money. She said try to keep you money seperate as long as possible. Even if you get married, have a joint account, but have your own account too. I followed her advice and I now see how much of difference it made in our relationship. I see a lot of my friends fighting over money issues and Im happy to say DH and I have never had a major fight about money. Best advice ever!!

Don't get married and Marry an Orphan!!

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Posted by Ambersmom

Don't get married and Marry an Orphan!!

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At my wedding we did the anniversary dance for all the married couples in lou of the bouquet toss....and the longest married couple gave us advise. They said even when you have children always put your significant other first...because the children eventually grow up and leave the house and you are left with the 2 of you again. If you put each other first you are providing you children with a loving caring home and modeling for them what a great loving relationship should be.

We don't have children yet...but hopefully when we do we will remember this advise.

From a neighbor when I was single. He and his wife have been married for almost 50 years. His advise/lesson....That even bad times get better and don't last forever and not to let that define you or your marriage. Also, be with someone that make you laugh a lot.

I can't narrow it down. Here are the three:

From my dad (who has a similar fighting style as me): "Even if you win all of the battles, you could lose the war."

From my ex-boyfriend's rabbi - although it remains to be determined: To always cherish your husband -even over your children (very hard to do). If you set a good example by having a healthy relationship, your children will go on to have healthy relationships too.

From the internet/also I posted it before:
It's about a priest that led marriage counseling sessions. He told the couples to write down ten things they would do for their spouse if they loved them. Then he said to completely ignore your feelings and do those ten things. Just do it. Make a new list each week. In two months he said they'd see a significant difference because while it's the thought that counts, sometimes it's the actions you need.

So I started thinking about things, even though I didn't feel he "deserved it" or that I had put in more effort. I didn't tell him what I had read, I just started doing things I would do if I really loved him (because let's face it there are times we really don't love them). It changed a lot of the arguments we have and a lot of the mushy part of when we first started dating came back.

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Posted by nrthshgrl

From the internet/also I posted it before:
It's about a priest that led marriage counseling sessions. He told the couples to write down ten things they would do for their spouse if they loved them. Then he said to completely ignore your feelings and do those ten things. Just do it. Make a new list each week. In two months he said they'd see a significant difference because while it's the thought that counts, sometimes it's the actions you need.

So I started thinking about things, even though I didn't feel he "deserved it" or that I had put in more effort. I didn't tell him what I had read, I just started doing things I would do if I really loved him (because let's face it there are times we really don't love them). It changed a lot of the arguments we have and a lot of the mushy part of when we first started dating came back.

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From the internet/also I posted it before:
It's about a priest that led marriage counseling sessions. He told the couples to write down ten things they would do for their spouse if they loved them. Then he said to completely ignore your feelings and do those ten things. Just do it. Make a new list each week. In two months he said they'd see a significant difference because while it's the thought that counts, sometimes it's the actions you need.

So I started thinking about things, even though I didn't feel he "deserved it" or that I had put in more effort. I didn't tell him what I had read, I just started doing things I would do if I really loved him (because let's face it there are times we really don't love them). It changed a lot of the arguments we have and a lot of the mushy part of when we first started dating came back.

Good thread!

My mom gives the best advice too...It's funny because she's generally very dry, to the point of cynical, about my dad. But recently DH and I had a huge fight and she told me to apologize and just let it go. He was mad at me and I told her I didn't know if he would forgive me, she said "Cry a little, that always helps"

Seriously, though, my mom's advice before and early on in our marriage always sounded so cliche, but now that we've been together a while, nearly everything she says makes perfect sense....I guess marriage and relationships are really something you have to discover for yourselves...

Oh one more

A good marriage isn't about just the good times. It's about how, together, you get through the bad times.

Message edited 5/19/2006 11:59:54 AM.

Always be honest with each other. When you start telling little lies, it can lead to much worse.

This person told me that all the couples he knew that were having trouble started hiding things from each other.

to never go to bed angry.