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Bri

You have GOT to be kidding me

 
Posted 5/14/05 7:39 PM
Sneezy


Posted by Stacey1403

If I was her I would contact a lawyer.



Completely agree! If her older son is on meds for ADHD, there is obviously documentation of it. The child's pediatrician should write a letter on her bahelf stating that the older child's problems have nothing to do with an inability to properly care for children.

 
Posted 5/15/05 6:09 PM
justme1

Something doesnt sound right to me about all that.
Children get hurt all the time. For some reason they must of felt at the hospital there was something else going on.
Sorry, Hope the baby is feeling better now

Message edited 5/15/2005 9:45:55 PM.

 
Posted 5/15/05 9:45 PM
MamaNDaddyof3


Posted by IslandGrl

Something doesnt sound right to me about all that.
Children get hurt all the time. For some reason they must of felt at the hospital there was something else going on.
Sorry, Hope the baby is feeling better now




I do have to say in my experience when your young child gets hurt right wawy people start looking at you as if you are guilty of hurting them.
when my youngest daughter was 6 months old and crawling she hurt her arm and when I brought her in to get the Xray the tech's were so nasty to me even the Dr was asking how a 6mth old could get hurt like that etc.
I was very intimidated by these people they didnt let it go until they found out my 6 mth old had a sibling and felt that my older one roughhoused and thats how she got hurt

well WRONG to all who said that because it happened like 10 more times and she had nursemaids elbow (where her arm pops out)

 
Posted 5/16/05 9:22 AM
justme1

I have never had that experience with my 2 children,
When either one of them has ever gotten hurt the Peds always calmed me down and would tell me how it happens to all children, that Im human and that everything will be ok.
If they are seeing doctors who make them feel guilty when there children get hurt I would advise them to GET A NEW DOCTOR.
A carring, compasionate doctor would NEVER make the parents feel liek that.

 
Posted 5/16/05 9:35 AM
MamaNDaddyof3

It isnt the pediatrician that does this it is the doctors at the ER

 
Posted 5/16/05 10:46 AM
nov04libride

So she is upset that she will not be able to open a daycare or do anything with children til the baby is 28yrs old? 28 sounds strange--you think it would be 18, but I understand them for wanting to err on the side of caution. And it sounds like she has her hands full already, so I don't know how she would be opening a day care center in her home. My cousin is a pediatric surgeon in the ER, and I know how many cases she sees. I think it is better for them to be careful and have any suspicious case looked into (and with a 1 year old really any head bump should be looked at--their skulls are not fully developed and it could result in brain damage). Waiting even hours could have been vital. And with the other child having absences (were their dr. notes for all of the absences? because they wouldn't usually give a problem for documented days out by drs.)....It's not like they took them away from her...I am not saying she is not a careful mother but I think each doctor should be that careful.

Message edited 5/16/2005 11:13:16 AM.

 
Posted 5/16/05 11:11 AM
pschica

that is terrible,Chat Icon
big hugs to you and her family!

Message edited 5/16/2005 3:25:29 PM.

 
Posted 5/16/05 3:24 PM
MamaNDaddyof3

It isnt that she wants to open a daycare its that she cant! she is a great mom and its just unfair that she has a file now for this
trust me I would say if she was a bad mother because my other SIL is a horrible mother so we take care of her son now.....its just a shame thats all

 
Posted 5/16/05 3:27 PM
DebG

Why would the hospital call CPS for one bump on one childs head.
Wait...ws this answered already in the thread...I am going to go back and read now.

 
Posted 5/16/05 9:05 PM
MamaNDaddyof3

that fall actually fractured his scull so they had to investigate the fall

 
Posted 5/16/05 9:26 PM
LuckyMe

That's just horrible. They always seem to target the decent people and look past the ones that shouldnt have kids. Im sorry she's going through this. I agree to a point that your better safe then sorry but it's not always done due to procedure and because someone was being spiteful or because someone deceided that wouldnt happen to them. My ex called CPS on me because I broke up with him. My cousin got into an arguement with her sister over her last cigarette and her nut of a sister called CPS. I also new a girl who had CPS called on her numerous times because her son was constantly falling and hitting his head and she refused to take him to the ped. to have it checked out and CPS came once, well the little boy died from skull fractures at the age of 4yr after hitting his head one last time. I also agree that you have you case workers who really care but a larger number who cant be bothered and are just looking for a paycheck. JMO

Message edited 5/17/2005 1:17:28 PM.

 
Posted 5/17/05 1:05 PM
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