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Posted by t

IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend

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I think it really depends on the individual friendships. If you are close, then ask her.

I've had the same bestfriend since nursery school. That's 34 years now. I am Godmother to another friend's (from High School) daughter and it just strengthened our friendship and we will always have a special bond. I don't think I've ever had friends that just came and went.

My Aunt & Uncle my Godparents and they have not been a part of my life since I was a child.

Message edited 5/12/2005 5:11:56 PM.

i think that it can be a little akward but if there both mature about it it can be done. i cant stand my godchilds godfather i mean to the point where if i see him on the street ill hide or cross the street to avoid him and i try my best to co exist and be as friendly to him as possible when i see him on holidays and b days. i hope it all works out

I think if she is still your best friend she should be godmother. However I would make sure that they can stand seeing each other because I know I have 2 GodChildren and I see their Godfathers all the time! Although they are both related to the kids as well.

However I am going to be my best friends childs godmother. She has no close female relatives, nor does her husband (both have only unmarried brothers) so unless she were to chose a cousin that she is not close to her child would have no godmother? If you are suggesting that one should ONLY chose blood relatives as Godparents what would you suggest someone does in that situation?

And if you only chose blood relatives that woudl count out those who are family through marriage right? So I guess I shouldnt be godmother to my little Godaughter.... It seems to me those who are saying that only blood relatives should be godparents to a child, really limit who a child can have and in come cases would me only 1 godparent or none if both parents are only children.

The most important thing is that they are both mature enough to realize that its about Jared and NOT themselves!

Message edited 5/13/2005 9:13:29 AM.

You should pick whoever you think would be the best godparent for your child. and it doesn't have to be family, just becasue there family doesn't mean your child will see the godparent more, my sister's godmother is our cousin and we haven't seen her in almost ten years. So just becasue they are family doesn't mean they will stick around. So if you think your best friend will always be around then i say to pick her.

as for picking family over friends cause "they'll always be there" thats not necessarily true.

My godfather is not a part of my life and he's my UNCLE. My father had a falling out with him 20 years ago, and they don't really communicate anymore. In fact, this uncle has pretty much separated himself from the entire family.

So go with who you WANT.

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Posted by Stefanie

This is the third time he's cheated on her....I doubt it....

It's a very messy story....

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I think I am going to stick with her. She already had her heart broken by someone she loved (and thought she was going to be married to), and to take away her role as godmother, (which she was looking forward to)it would kill her.

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Posted by Stefanie

I think I am going to stick with her. She already had her heart broken by someone she loved (and thought she was going to be married to), and to take away her role as godmother, (which she was looking forward to)it would kill her.

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