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Stefanie	Message edited 8/6/2008 11:20:36 AM. Posted 5/11/05 9:52 PM
Gertyrae	When is the Christening? If you both really want them, I am sure they could suck it up for a day. They hardly ever have to see each other after that. I know I've seen my Godson's Godfather maybe 3 times in the last six years. Posted 5/11/05 9:59 PM
Stefanie	I'm probably going to have it in August or early September... Posted 5/11/05 10:11 PM
MrsJ	I'm sorry But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom? I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision. Posted 5/11/05 10:19 PM
TheInfamousOTG	Posted by Stefanie I originally posted (on LIW) how I was choosing a Jewish Godmother and was asking advice if the church would ok that. Well the church said it was okay so that is no longer my dilemma. Here's the new drama...We chose my DH's cousin for the godfather and his girlfriend for the godmother. We after 8 years of dating, they just broke up. I cannot believe what he did to her.... I am devastated about this whole situation and cannot believe what is going on. They both called us and said if we wanted to choose different people to be the godparents, they would understand. DH and I both decided to keep them the same. She is my best friend and he is DH's cousin... Do you think that this is going to be an awkward situation?? Is there a chance that they might get back together? Posted 5/11/05 10:24 PM
Stefanie	This is the third time he's cheated on her....I doubt it.... It's a very messy story.... Posted 5/11/05 10:31 PM
TAD	IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend Posted 5/12/05 9:40 AM
Cocoa	if they will do the job and you want them both, they will have to put aside their stuff and do it! Posted 5/12/05 9:46 AM
dpli	Posted by kelleherkm I'm sorry But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom? I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision. I agree. If she is still a close friend by the time you have another baby, maybe ask her then? I would assume you'd want the godparents involved in your son's life and it will probably always be uncomfortable for the two of them and possibly you. Posted 5/12/05 9:51 AM
Wendy	Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!! Posted 5/12/05 10:04 AM
Juliet	Posted by Wendy Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!! I was thinking the same thing!! Posted 5/12/05 10:08 AM
dpli	Posted by Wendy Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!! Not a bad idea, but she is not the Catholic one from hat you said. Can you find another Catholic GP to replace the cheater? Posted 5/12/05 10:09 AM
MrsJ	Posted by Stefanie This is the third time he's cheated on her....I doubt it.... It's a very messy story.... OMG should HE be the Godfather? Posted 5/12/05 10:10 AM
MrsJ	Posted by Wendy Personally, I'd stick with your best friend as the godmother and dump the cheating cousin as godfather!! I AGREE!!! Posted 5/12/05 10:11 AM
Tracey	Posted by kelleherkm I'm sorry But I do think that if they are broken up, she shouldnt be the godmother. It should be family or someone you are close to. What happens if your BIL gets married down the road and his ex is the Godmom? I'm sorry you and DH have to make this decision. I speak from experience, I had my brother and his long time girlfriend be the god parents of my son. They were together for like 5 years at the time with marriage in their future. Well, they broke up, they made it to my sons 1st b-day and that was it. I was pretty close with her at the time, but time goes on and needless to say we have no contact anymore, and in the mean time my brother met and married someone else. So I will never make the mistake of chosing a girlfriend of anybody anymore! Now my son has no godmother. I would seriously reconsider still using her. Sorry you have to go through this! Posted 5/12/05 10:14 AM
Janice	I would not do it. Who knows what the future holds? Maybe her future guy won't like the idea of it and pull her away from celebrations. Posted 5/12/05 10:30 AM
lullabella	That is a tough situation. Honestly if you truly believe that she will be there for you child then do it. So often people pick friends for god parents and then a few years later they are outof the picture and the child is the one who misses out. I have a few very close friends that I have grown up with and still I would only pick family for this responsibility. Good luck with your decision. Sorry Posted 5/12/05 12:01 PM
Lichi	Posted by t IMO she shouldnt be the godmother cause friends always come and go but family is always there. Even if she is your bestest friend I compeletely agree. Especially if you only became really close friends with her because she was with DH's cuz. Now that they've broken up, I'm sure that it'll put a strain on your relationship, and eventually part ways. Plus, if I were in her, or his shoes, and was asked to be godparent, I would NEVER renounce, regardless of my marital status. IMO, choosing a godparent is a big thing, and not because of who I was with. Also, I would be hurt if I was 'demoted' because of a breakup. Posted 5/12/05 12:17 PM
Boobobunny	I am picked Blood Relatives for James' God Parents...This way they will always be a part of his life. My Godmother was married to my uncle and when they divorced I never saw her again. Posted 5/12/05 1:09 PM
Stefanie	Thanks everyone for your opinions...this is going to be tough!! Posted 5/12/05 3:49 PM
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