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Kara	Posted by MrsM-6-7-08 My best friend has 3 children, we've been friends forever and have a lot in common its scary sometimes, we talk everyday, email, IM, facebook etc. It doesnt bother me when friends talk about their kids, because their my friends i love their kids. And I have learned a lot from being close with someone who has kids, things i wouldn't of known I agree. Maybe it is because I am the baby of the family and my cousins have had children since I was a kid myself. I've grown up always having cousins (and now my brothers) with children of varying ages. I don't have kids of my OWN, but I can hold a conversation about kids and I love hearing about my friends' kids. I think ANY time there is only ONE main focus of conversation for a really long period of time, it gets boring and out of hand. Horse people are like this, too -- I'm probably guilty of it myself. I love horses as much as the other horsepeople in my life, but some of them can talk of nothing else. I DO have plenty to contribute to those conversations, but after 2 hours of it, it starts getting old. I think the same goes for kids. Posted 3/11/09 4:53 PM
JessInCA	I don't mind hanging out with my friends who have kids at all. But I haven't really found that they exclusively talk about their children - generally there is conversation that I can contribute to. If there weren't, then yeah, I could see not being excited about getting together anymore, because I imagine I'd feel really left out. Posted 3/11/09 5:55 PM
shiv	This reminds of when i was thinking of joining a junior league in my town. i went to one of the meetings with my neighbor and everyone had kids and they were all talking about them. i felt so left out and decided not to join because of it. Other than that, most of my friends don't have kids and even the ones that do, really don't talk about them unless you ask. Posted 3/12/09 11:26 AM
ihilani	What I've found is that if I'm one-on-one with a friend (99% have kids), it's fine. However, when I'm with more than one person who has kids, I'm completely left out. Posted 3/12/09 11:44 AM
MrsPJB2007	A lot of our friends we've had for years -- they all have kids that are older -- like age 7 or 8 thru like 12 or 13. so they are well behaved and such, and when we hang out - its fine that there are kids around cause I've known these kids since they were toddlers. DH and I are really good with kids and don't mind them at all with our friends. Sometimes we have nites out just the grownups -- but a lot of times we'll go to our friends house who have kids and all hang out together. Luckily none of my friends were the type to be all about the kiddies. Although I'm wondering how it will be now--as a bunch of a new wave of my friends have just had babies or are pregnant -- I guess we'll see how the friendships are as time goes on! Posted 3/12/09 12:27 PM
imas98	Posted by MeeshMosh Posted by JennandRolo That is a fear of mine since everyone in my small social group is starting to have babies. I feel like nothings going to be the same because their going to have children. in general, getting engaged & married has changed A LOT of my friends already... im scared to see what having children will do!! ITA !! Only a few of our friends have kids but we never saw them that much to begin with. They will come out occasionally w/out their kids which is a nice change. But I do worry what will happen when our close friends have kids. The conversation is usually pretty adult but there are always funny stories about what they do & say. I don't mind when kids are at certain parties or come out to dinner with us, as long as everything doesn't revolve around them. I've been to two gtg's where we've wound up watching what "Emily is doing" for half the night....very boring for us. Message edited 3/12/2009 1:45:48 PM. Posted 3/12/09 1:42 PM
MeeshMosh	double post... see below Message edited 3/12/2009 2:01:31 PM. Posted 3/12/09 2:00 PM
KirR	DH has more friends with children than I do. When we go back to visit, we mostly have kid-free get togethers. My friends with kids actually prefer to go out without their kids - they can relax, have more fun, and do not have to be mommy and daddy all night! I could see us not spending as much time with our friends who are parents if they behaved differently. Simply due to a lack of commonality. Posted 3/12/09 2:00 PM
MeeshMosh	I've been to two gtg's where we've wound up watching what "Emily is doing" for half the night....very boring for us. oh yeah see thats just wrong... i can understand that happening SOMETIMES... but if ever GTG was like that... i wouldnt be calling that person that often to hang out thats for sure bringing your child with us out to eat is a much better alternative then watching elmo videos or their child play in a ball pit for the whole night Message edited 3/12/2009 2:01:52 PM. Posted 3/12/09 2:01 PM
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