How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

I get this all of the time! its soo annoying..We have only been married for 7 months..and I hear this constantly! We are waiting because we are simply not ready..emotionally, financially, etc..when will people understand this..especially financially with the way the economy is right now

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Posted by Blazesyth

I've said that to friends before.. they'll ask when the baby's coming and I'll say it's highly unlikely since I prefer it in the a$$. They laugh then stop asking (at least during that conversation...)

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I don't mind it from people at work because they usually ask about me and DH first and will ask if we are planning kids. It's not like the same people all the time either. But my mother on the other hand.....

DH and I got married fairly young (23 and 24) so people were okay w/ us not having kids yet... but it's been 3 1/2 years, and we're 26/27 now... and the question is coming more and more regularly - especially at work since like 5 women are pregnant... everytime i open my mouth people think it's to announce a pregnancy.

before we ever TTC, I got it from my BIL and MIL alot.

So I got fed up and said to BIL "I'll tell you that when you tell me when you are going to pay DH back the money we lent you."

Asked MIL when she was going to get around to marrying her boyfriend.

Questions suddenly stopped.

My reasoning is that if you get to ask me personal question that are none of your business, I get to ask you ones too.

My dad's side of the family is the worst. No one on DH's side and no one on my mom's side asks, but since my dad's side is averaging about two babies a year, I get asked a lot. Particularly by my grandmother's two sisters. One of their daughters asked me when I was having them, and said I shouldn't wait because her friends waited until they were 30 and had problems. (I'm 26). I was hurt by that.

Really only occassionally from my mother. She really wants to be a grandma. I told her my brother got married first, bug him. It usually works. We are going to wait a few more years. Sometimes my co-workers will say things but no one has been overly obnoxious about it...yet.

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Posted by JennandRolo

about once or twice a week...and for some reason always from the same people

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IMHO, I think people only ask this because they lack in communication skills... Just like when right after you get married people say 'Soooooo how's married life??' you know?

ummm married life is the same life as before!!

I think people have nothing else to say sometimes and only *expect* that you'll have children next. This expectation is outdated as many more people are not having children.

Just like when you've been dating for a while, people will ask 'when are you getting married?'

I know plenty of people who have no desire to get married... doesn't make them less of a couple or a family.

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Posted by MrsM-6-7-08

I was just asked by my doctor 2 times
He said

"when are you going to have babies you are getting old"

I think i am going to find a new doctor
i was really insulated, this happened at 2 visits within a week apart

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Posted by theburbshereicome
I may be paranoid but I could swear MIL stares at my uterus.

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Message edited 3/13/2009 10:15:31 AM.

DH and I do plan to have children, but we wanted to be married for a bit first. My assistant principal was actually the worst offender - last spring, I think he asked me once a day! I had to threaten him with the teacher's union to get him to knock it off.

Interesting, but it's mostly random people (the lady at my deli, distant relatives, the occasional colleague) that ask most often. We've NEVER gotten any pressure from family or friends.

To be honest, we rarely hear it. Maybe it is because none of my friends are married and because the one piece of advice we got from both of your families was to wait and enjoy our time together.

I answered once in a while because it usually only happens at a family gathering. I don't mind it too much...I just laugh it off and say nooo way, not yet...That usually gets the point across

Not as much anymore as I did right after the wedding.
It did just happen two weeks ago at a friend's baby shower. I saw again some of my neighbors from the old neighborhood and upon hearing that I got married, of course asked, so when are you next ? I can't be rude to these ladies, so I politely say that I'm too old (I'm 42) and it would be difficult for me without my mom. That ususally works.

For my friends, I usually just tell them that Mike doesn't want children. End of story.

I went to a Christening today and I was asked way too many times--relax I haven't been married a year yet. I hate that question

I get it the most from other teachers or from parents. The parents of my students are totally planning, they want to make sure none of their kids get stuck with a sub. My family and friends are non-intrustive though My SILs have been asking since the week of our wedding (they really want to be aunties)

I get it less often now.. It is most likely because I was sooooo snippy when people asked in the past.

I feel like I get this question everyday. I think it may be bc I'm a newlywed but I'm quite tired of it.