How often do you get, "When are babies coming along?"

Depending on your reason for not having children (you don't have to say why of course, we all know there are TONS of possibilities), since you are married do you find that people ask you when you ARE going to have children? Maybe it's because I'm still a NW, but I feel that people ask WAY too much! I think that people need to rethink this question because they don't know my situation and what if didn't want children or had other issues? I wouldn't want to explain this, nor would I feel like I'd have to explain this to anyone! They are all lucky because I do want kids one day, so it's easy enough to say NOT YET...but still! Mind your own beeswax people!

Any feelings? Experiences?

Yes I'm replying to my OP so I don't have to edit it lol, just wanted to add that this has happened about THREE times since the weekend and seeing this new board inspired me to find out if other people are in the same boat as me, or if I'm just surrounded by people who feel the need to intrude on my personal business!

I feel like someone is asking me that question every single day and it makes me

Just because I got married doesn't mean I am having babies right away!! It's a marriage license not a baby license!!

Plus..it's a nosy question IMHO!

Message edited 3/10/2009 4:41:53 PM.

im not married yet but ive been with my fh for almost 5 years and i get all the time when im having kids. i dont mind because sooner or later i will maybe b4 im 3o

Whenever I see someone I have not seen in a while, they will ask this question.

Also the ILs always have this question on the tip of their tongue. I know I can't discuss certain things around them or say certain things to them, because it will lead to this question.

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Posted by TheLorax

Also the ILs always have this question on the tip of their tongue. I know I can't discuss certain things around them or say certain things to them, because it will lead to this question.

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about once or twice a week...and for some reason always from the same people

A lot less now that we have been married for over 5 years- I guess maybe they have given up on us?

But I HATE that question and it makes me uncomfortable- I feel like they are asking about my sex life in essence.
It's such an intimate personal thing.

I feel like saying- geez I'm not sure - he likes to pull out...
Or we only enjoy anal so not anytime soon!
Or something equally embarrasing!

I bet THAT would shut them right up!

I was just asked by my doctor 2 times
He said

"when are you going to have babies you are getting old"

I think i am going to find a new doctor
i was really insulated, this happened at 2 visits within a week apart

It's getting to be at least once a week now. I don't mind if it's my close friends asking because they're genuinely curious about my life plans - they are also good about not asking repeatedly. But the ILs have begun to pester us for grandkids, and I get the questions from random people at work, a friend of a friend at a bridal shower, extended family members, the guy at the counter at the pizza place, the people at the place we leave our dogs while we go on vacation... I'm tired of thinking of witty answers to such a personal question.

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Posted by anonttcer

A lot less now that we have been married for over 5 years- I guess maybe they have given up on us?

But I HATE that question and it makes me uncomfortable- I feel like they are asking about my sex life in essence.
It's such an intimate personal thing.

I feel like saying- geez I'm not sure - he likes to pull out...
Or we only enjoy anal so not anytime soon!
Or something equally embarrasing!

I bet THAT would shut them right up!

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Luckily I do NOT get it from my parents or his..in fact one of the two sides, not saying which, is all for waiting like 2 years at least to "enjoy" our marriage first. I am not on board with their plan and they will be shocked when (God willing) it happens a lot sooner than that!!!!

I do get it from coworkers A LOT and neighbors and some friends. I don't mind when the close friends ask though for some reason.

We got that AT our wedding and each time I saw someone I hadn't seen since the wedding. Three years has past and in another 3 years I will be 40 so no one is really asking anymore. Lucky me!!

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Posted by anonttcer

A lot less now that we have been married for over 5 years- I guess maybe they have given up on us?

But I HATE that question and it makes me uncomfortable- I feel like they are asking about my sex life in essence.
It's such an intimate personal thing.

I feel like saying- geez I'm not sure - he likes to pull out...
Or we only enjoy anal so not anytime soon!
Or something equally embarrasing!

I bet THAT would shut them right up!

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My parents-they know we are TTC, and my mother already knitted a blanket for her future grandchild.

ILs are completely unsupportive, and most don't know we are TTC and we don't get questions-mostly oh, you have time (which is nice sometimes, except from certain people where that translates to "Hopefully he dumps her before a kid is involved") My SIL said we were crazy when she saw my OPKs when we rented from her and she was snooping.

At work, they all took bets.

Luckily we don't get asked much.

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Posted by MrsM-6-7-08

I was just asked by my doctor 2 times
He said

"when are you going to have babies you are getting old"

I think i am going to find a new doctor
i was really insulated, this happened at 2 visits within a week apart

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The first time was at my wedding reception

My favorites are the badly-disguised questions, like "Are your parents pressuring you for grandchildren?"

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Posted by anonttcer

A lot less now that we have been married for over 5 years- I guess maybe they have given up on us?

But I HATE that question and it makes me uncomfortable- I feel like they are asking about my sex life in essence.
It's such an intimate personal thing.

I feel like saying- geez I'm not sure - he likes to pull out...
Or we only enjoy anal so not anytime soon!
Or something equally embarrasing!

I bet THAT would shut them right up!

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Every so often. Not so much from family (thankfully) but coworkers & acquaintances mostly. One "friend" posts it on my Wall all the time.. "when u havin a baby"... I want to smack her!!!

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Posted by Blazesyth

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Posted by anonttcer

A lot less now that we have been married for over 5 years- I guess maybe they have given up on us?

But I HATE that question and it makes me uncomfortable- I feel like they are asking about my sex life in essence.
It's such an intimate personal thing.

I feel like saying- geez I'm not sure - he likes to pull out...
Or we only enjoy anal so not anytime soon!
Or something equally embarrasing!

I bet THAT would shut them right up!

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I've said that to friends before.. they'll ask when the baby's coming and I'll say it's highly unlikely since I prefer it in the a$$. They laugh then stop asking (at least during that conversation...)

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