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| Ophelia |
Posted by DirtyBlonde
honestly, i'm surprised that it took this long.
me too in a way.
I am assuming I won't be welcomed on the pregnancy or parenting boards now.
whatever.
Posted 3/10/09 1:59 PM
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| MrsFab |
i dont really know if this board is ok for me to be on- we are married 5 months and just not wanting kids yet- but I am here, cause I think its where I fit best right now
but anyhow, I just wanted to say my aunt never had children and I can remember her crying over things that people said to her about not wanting children. Its terrible and not right for anyone to make someone feel like that.
Posted 3/10/09 2:00 PM
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| pinkandblue |
Posted by BJandDan
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by MrsM-6-7-08
but we have to be worried each and everytime we say something that the parents are going to be so highly offended then really what is the point.
No, see, we DON"T have to be worried b/c this is OUR place and if others want to come and read and comment they have to get that they are in the minority and we will continue to express ourselves and support each other. We are not here to support parents, only other CHILDLESS families.
see, that is where I disagree...why be so divisive? Why not support each other, whether you be childfree or parents?
Because this board is for CHILDLESS families. I can support you on families helping families, relationships, etc. I shouldn't have to worry about what I say here...I happen to be childless NOT by choice and in a society so child driven it is nice to have a place I get to feel a little normal!
I don't think you should "worry" about what you say...say what you want but remember that people will be lurking and commenting as this is a public board
I agree with Stephanie.... heck, people get offended over on the Pet board. 
Posted 3/10/09 2:01 PM
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| pinkandblue |
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by DirtyBlonde
honestly, i'm surprised that it took this long.
me too in a way.
I am assuming I won't be welcomed on the pregnancy or parenting boards now.
whatever.
why would you say that? That is not true
all are welcome, even the "non-parents"
Posted 3/10/09 2:01 PM
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| BaseballWidow |
Posted by Mikismom
I don't think you should "worry" about what you say
Trust me, I won't!
Posted 3/10/09 2:03 PM
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| pinkandblue |
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by Mikismom
I don't think you should "worry" about what you say
Trust me, I won't!
perfect.... 
Posted 3/10/09 2:10 PM
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| Lizzie217 |
Posted by MrsFab
i dont really know if this board is ok for me to be on- we are married 5 months and just not wanting kids yet- but I am here, cause I think its where I fit best right now
but anyhow, I just wanted to say my aunt never had children and I can remember her crying over things that people said to her about not wanting children. Its terrible and not right for anyone to make someone feel like that.
I'm in the same boat...I were are currently childless families,,,when I'm preggo I will leave. 
Posted 3/10/09 2:11 PM
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| BaseballWidow |
Posted by BlovesE
I'm in the same boat...I were are currently childless families,,,when I'm preggo I will leave.
If/when I get preggo I'll be on my merry way too! But for now it's nice to stay!
Posted 3/10/09 2:16 PM
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| HeathKernandez |
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by BlovesE
I'm in the same boat...I were are currently childless families,,,when I'm preggo I will leave.
If/when I get preggo I'll be on my merry way too! But for now it's nice to stay!
This is where I am confused. NFR is a NON FAMILY RELATED board... where most of my 'non parent' LIF friends hang out.
Actually *I* hang out there more, b/c to be honest I dont have much in common with anyone on the parenting board b/c my kid is almost in college
I thought this board was for people who just never wanted children to express their frustrations and experiences?
If you are going to have children eventually, why not just post on NFR?
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
Posted 3/10/09 2:19 PM
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| skinny |
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by DirtyBlonde
honestly, i'm surprised that it took this long.
me too in a way.
I am assuming I won't be welcomed on the pregnancy or parenting boards now.
whatever.
why would you say that? That is not true
all are welcome, even the "non-parents"
Yeah, but not really. "Non-parents" don't know what it's like to be parents so we really wouldn't fit in over there. The same, in reverse, is true of this board.
Posted 3/10/09 2:21 PM
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| Cheeks24 |
Posted by KeithHernandez
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by BlovesE
I'm in the same boat...I were are currently childless families,,,when I'm preggo I will leave.
If/when I get preggo I'll be on my merry way too! But for now it's nice to stay!
This is where I am confused. NFR is a NON FAMILY RELATED board... where most of my 'non parent' LIF friends hang out.
Actually *I* hang out there more, b/c to be honest I dont have much in common with anyone on the parenting board b/c my kid is almost in college
I thought this board was for people who just never wanted children to express their frustrations and experiences?
If you are going to have children eventually, why not just post on NFR?
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
Well to me parenting is parenting only so why would someone post something that has nothing to do with parenting there? That's why I think NFR was created. This board is similar to NFR, but a place where non parents can hang out too.
Posted 3/10/09 2:24 PM
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| greenfreak |
I just want the drama to stay where it belongs. On NFR on Friday afternoons.
Seriously though, if this board gets ruined because of drama and flaming, I'm gonna lose my goddamn mind. I have been AVOIDING threads and entire boards for that reason! Let me have this one board! Pleeeeease!!
I deserve a safe haven, as does everyone else, childless or childmore.
Posted 3/10/09 2:24 PM
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| MeeshMosh |
Posted by KeithHernandez
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
i see what you are saying & i thought the same thing when the board was created
Posted 3/10/09 2:25 PM
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| DonnaJoe708 |
Posted by Mikismom
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by MrsM-6-7-08
but we have to be worried each and everytime we say something that the parents are going to be so highly offended then really what is the point.
No, see, we DON"T have to be worried b/c this is OUR place and if others want to come and read and comment they have to get that they are in the minority and we will continue to express ourselves and support each other. We are not here to support parents, only other CHILDLESS families.
see, that is where I disagree...why be so divisive? Why not support each other, whether you be childfree or parents?
I agree with Stephanie. Why can't we just support one another regardless of whether or not we have children?
Posted 3/10/09 2:25 PM
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| BaseballWidow |
Posted by KeithHernandez
Posted by BaseballWidow
Posted by BlovesE
I'm in the same boat...I were are currently childless families,,,when I'm preggo I will leave.
If/when I get preggo I'll be on my merry way too! But for now it's nice to stay!
This is where I am confused. NFR is a NON FAMILY RELATED board... where most of my 'non parent' LIF friends hang out.
Actually *I* hang out there more, b/c to be honest I dont have much in common with anyone on the parenting board b/c my kid is almost in college
I thought this board was for people who just never wanted children to express their frustrations and experiences?
If you are going to have children eventually, why not just post on NFR?
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
Honestly, I am not childless by choice. I would LOVE a brood of kids. It may never haoppen for us though. BUT, that said, DH and I are a family, as I have come to learn, so NFR doen't fit for all things either. The whole purpose of this board was two fold:
1. To meet other childless couples
2. To talk about common interests/struggles of living in a "family (meaning with children) centered" society
Some are here and never want kids, others do. Fact is whatever the reason we have more in common with each other then with families with children..regardless of the kids' ages.
Posted 3/10/09 2:29 PM
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| Ophelia |
Posted by DonnaJoe708
I agree with Stephanie. Why can't we just support one another regardless of whether or not we have children?
you can't. b/c you can't have feelings that are contrary or "offensive" to someone else and express them.
I think it's funny that NOT one of the "mothers' that got upset with me instead tried to comfort me, or assuage my fears about pregnancy, since I thought I made my love and wonderment of childbearing just as clear as my fears of it.
but instead, people took it to heart, got offended...and of course, I am mean unfeeling and whatever else.
Posted 3/10/09 2:30 PM
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| MissRadiant |
Posted by KeithHernandez
I thought this board was for people who just never wanted children to express their frustrations and experiences?
If you are going to have children eventually, why not just post on NFR?
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
Wait now I am confused I thought this board was for people that did not have children. No matter what their reasons are. I feel more comfortable speaking to people that do not have kids then to those that do as we can relate to each other more. I want kids in a couple of years but not right now.
Posted 3/10/09 2:30 PM
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| MrsFab |
Posted by KeithHernandez
This is where I am confused. NFR is a NON FAMILY RELATED board... where most of my 'non parent' LIF friends hang out.
Actually *I* hang out there more, b/c to be honest I dont have much in common with anyone on the parenting board b/c my kid is almost in college
I thought this board was for people who just never wanted children to express their frustrations and experiences?
If you are going to have children eventually, why not just post on NFR?
(I don't mean this to criticize...I'm honestly confused b/c I see a BIG difference btwn those who don't have kids YET and those who don't want kids)
you know?
my opinion- nfr stands for not family related- I consider DH and I a family- at some point we will add to that family (hopefully) but nevertheless, I feel like this board has the potential to address things that relate to our relationship as it stands now. When I first came on here, I was glad to see discussion about traveling without your spouse and what other people have been told because they dont have/dont want kids- and I have been told some horrible things because we dont want kids right now- called selfish selfcentered, etc because I am "31 & not getting any younger" and I guess I felt like this was somewhere that I could talk about that stuff.
Posted 3/10/09 2:30 PM
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| MrsFab |
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by DonnaJoe708
I agree with Stephanie. Why can't we just support one another regardless of whether or not we have children?
you can't. b/c you can't have feelings that are contrary or "offensive" to someone else and express them.
I think it's funny that NOT one of the "mothers' that got upset with me instead tried to comfort me, or assuage my fears about pregnancy, since I thought I made my love and wonderment of childbearing just as clear as my fears of it.
but instead, people took it to heart, got offended...and of course, I am mean unfeeling and whatever else.
that is a good point, it might have been helpful if someone sought to educate instead of judge
Posted 3/10/09 2:32 PM
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| DonnaJoe708 |
Posted by Ophelia
Posted by DonnaJoe708
I agree with Stephanie. Why can't we just support one another regardless of whether or not we have children?
you can't. b/c you can't have feelings that are contrary or "offensive" to someone else and express them.
I think it's funny that NOT one of the "mothers' that got upset with me instead tried to comfort me, or assuage my fears about pregnancy, since I thought I made my love and wonderment of childbearing just as clear as my fears of it.
but instead, people took it to heart, got offended...and of course, I am mean unfeeling and whatever else.
For what it's worth, I don't think you're mean or unfeeling! 
Posted 3/10/09 2:33 PM
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