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Lets start the board off with rudest things people have said to you....

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DonnaJoe708	Another gem..."Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Is that a reason to have a child?! So I'm not alone when I'm old?! Posted 3/10/09 11:25 AM
anonttcer	Posted by DonnaJoe708 Another gem..."Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Is that a reason to have a child?! So I'm not alone when I'm old?! Oh yeah I heard this one. Like there is any guarantee your child is going to take care of you when you're old? Look at all the broken families out there where the kids run off and never speak to their parents again once they get older... Please... Posted 3/10/09 11:31 AM
carolyns4cupcakes	I guess my mama did teach me manners b/c I would NEVER say something rude to anyone who chose a certain lifestyle. Why on earth would I grill someone for answers? I would be totally uncomfortable doing so b/c clearly it's none of my business. It's not my nature anyway. So consider me not one of those nosey rude abnoxious people. Posted 3/10/09 11:52 AM
Blazesyth	Posted by DonnaJoe708 Another gem..."Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Is that a reason to have a child?! So I'm not alone when I'm old?! This is a good one. I always say that half the money I am 'saving' by not having children will be put towards an assisted living faciilty. They certainly won't complain about changing my diaper. Posted 3/10/09 11:55 AM
greenfreak	Posted by Blazesyth Posted by DonnaJoe708 Another gem..."Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Is that a reason to have a child?! So I'm not alone when I'm old?! This is a good one. I always say that half the money I am 'saving' by not having children will be put towards an assisted living faciilty. They certainly won't complain about changing my diaper. That is EXACTLY what I say!! My Dad said that to me, and keeps telling me the story of his Aunt Ann who was widowed, had no children, and died alone. And that he doesn't want that for me. Again, that's not a good enough reason to have children. The last time he said it, I said, "Having children is no guarantee they'll take care of you. I know I putting YOU in a home somewhere if you don't stop with the Aunt Ann story." We have a really blunt family... can ya tell? Posted 3/10/09 12:36 PM
JennandRolo	Posted by anonttcer Posted by DonnaJoe708 Another gem..."Who's going to take care of you when you're old?" Is that a reason to have a child?! So I'm not alone when I'm old?! Oh yeah I heard this one. Like there is any guarantee your child is going to take care of you when you're old? Look at all the broken families out there where the kids run off and never speak to their parents again once they get older... Please... I wouldnt even consider putting that kind of responsibility on my child. I would want them to live their lives. Thats such a bs reason to have kids. Posted 3/10/09 1:09 PM
imas98	The doorman in my building at work asked when I was having kids. I said "i don't know, I'm not sure" and he said "you know, there's no point to life if you don't have kids....that's what life is about" - I didn't know what to say ! Now I just avoid asking about his kids or I make jokes about how I can't keep my plants alive or how I want to get a dog first, etc. Posted 3/10/09 1:27 PM
KittyTheTax	I mentioned it on another thread but there are 2 that made me totally 1. "If you had married the right person you would want kids" 2. "Why don't you want kids? You're worried about your body not looking as good anymore?" WHAT?? With the hundreds of different reasons people choose not to have children, why would anyone just assume that the reason I didn't want children was because i was worried about my body??? This pi$$ed me off more than I can possible express. Posted 3/10/09 2:45 PM
lovemy2boys	I have a baby now, but the RUDEST thing anyone ever said to me was, what's going on at home? trouble in paradise? why no baby yet? I didn't even know what to say, so I said, ever heard of birth control?! I was so PO'ed!!!!!!! And the worst thing was I was TTC at that point and it took longer than I though I was sooooooo and at the same time. I hate ppl!! Posted 3/10/09 8:11 PM
anonttcer	Ohhh- reading other's responses is making me remember new ones by the minute. I had a guy at work- who is around my age and who I am pretty close with- say- "Isn't the whole point of marraige to have a family?" Um NO. I married my husband for who HE was and vice versa. Not for his sperm and not for my eggs. And azzhat- WE- the two of us- ARE a family. How dare you imply we aren't a family because we don't have kids. Maybe his tune would change if he wife wasn't able to get pregnant at the drop of a hat and they were faced with not being able to have any kids. Meantime- he is one of the poster children for NOT having kids because he has 3 and acts MISERABLE and complains about them all the time. JERK!!!!! Posted 3/10/09 8:38 PM
KittyKatCopper	I recently got..."You don't want kids??? What does your husband say???...my reply to this particular male chauvinist was "um...he doesn't want them either"...he was insinuating that i was forcing my DH not to have kids with my decision. Posted 3/10/09 9:49 PM
KevinNKristin8-15-08	Your too young..or not ready to have children! I'm 27 for god's sake. And though I don't want children right now..I don't think its anyones business if they feel I'm personally ready to...Its my decision and mine alone Posted 3/10/09 10:48 PM
IrishLass	The rudest thing I ever got was from my MIL and BIL - DH and I were married for 1 year, the first Christmas we spent the day with them and made other arrangements with my family. The second Christmas we were married, I wanted to have dinner with my family..his BIL said to me "no, we were married first and have kids, you don't..you have to do what we do and go by our schedule". Decorum prevents me from writing what my response to that was. Posted 3/11/09 8:57 AM
DonnaJoe708	Posted by KittyKatCopper I recently got..."You don't want kids??? What does your husband say???...my reply to this particular male chauvinist was "um...he doesn't want them either"...he was insinuating that i was forcing my DH not to have kids with my decision. I love this...why is the woman always to blame?? Posted 3/11/09 9:24 AM
anonttcer	Posted by DonnaJoe708 Posted by KittyKatCopper I recently got..."You don't want kids??? What does your husband say???...my reply to this particular male chauvinist was "um...he doesn't want them either"...he was insinuating that i was forcing my DH not to have kids with my decision. I love this...why is the woman always to blame?? Because don't you know- all us women are good for is to be baby factories and to give our husbands sons to carry on the family name. I love that one- the family name- once you are dead you won't care if you family name is carried on or not- because you wont' know the difference.... Posted 3/11/09 9:28 AM
LI-Joy	An ex wierdo co worker who always told people that they should have more kids and when are they having a baby said this to me a month after I got engaged. Her-You're nothing if you aren't a mother. Me-You're nothing for saying something like that. Posted 3/12/09 9:50 AM
watersdeb04	I'm the opposite. DH and I want children more than anything but we are still dealing with getting his mental illness stabilized, dealing with the financial reprocussions of his mental illness, and me losing weight and when we were in the fac lounge talking about it and a colleague of mine talked about her and her DH's decision to be childless, I said I'm just the reverse. My DH can't wait for a baby. She said oh but you're not ready. I was trying to say that I know we're not ready but she didn't need to blab that in front of a whole bunch of people. Posted 3/12/09 9:59 AM
LI-Joy	Posted by LI-Joy An ex wierdo co worker who always told people that they should have more kids and when are they having a baby said this to me a month after I got engaged. Her-You're nothing if you aren't a mother. Me-You're nothing for saying something like that. I want a child more than anything too, but DH has Male fertility issues and he is a little reluctant to spend the $ on IVF since there is no guarantee, (I am also 41.5) but we are going to try. Posted 3/12/09 11:36 AM
LI-Joy	Posted by watersdeb04 I'm the opposite. DH and I want children more than anything but we are still dealing with getting his mental illness stabilized, dealing with the financial reprocussions of his mental illness, and me losing weight and when we were in the fac lounge talking about it and a colleague of mine talked about her and her DH's decision to be childless, I said I'm just the reverse. My DH can't wait for a baby. She said oh but you're not ready. I was trying to say that I know we're not ready but she didn't need to blab that in front of a whole bunch of people. I meant to quote you. That is terrible what you're coworker said. What an a$$hole. Wish you the best of luck. Posted 3/12/09 11:38 AM
anonttcer	Posted by LI-Joy An ex wierdo co worker who always told people that they should have more kids and when are they having a baby said this to me a month after I got engaged. Her-You're nothing if you aren't a mother. Me-You're nothing for saying something like that. A comment like that is very very sad. If being a mother is all she feels she is good for then she has major self esteem and self worth issues. Posted 3/12/09 11:48 AM
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