Lets start the board off with rudest things people have said to you....

concerning you being childless.

Nothing like a good vent of the stupid things people say!

DH's dad told us that we need to have kids, cause "Whose gonna live your life for you--that's what kids are for, you have them and they continue to live your life for you"

Um--aren't you supposed to live YOUR life--helloooo!?

Oh and when he realized I'm turning 30 this year he looked at me and said "Omg--you think its OKAY to have a baby after 30?!?!?!?!!!"

He was waiting for me to be embarassed or something, and was quite angry when I said that I knew plenty of people who have babies in their 30's.

lolol, I started another thread at the same time, sorry.

"What's wrong with you that you don't want to have children?"

I STILL can't stand hearing, "You're young. You'll change your mind" or any variation of that. It makes my blood boil.

I'm going to go with..."I can't wait until you have children and see how you're able to talk on the phone with all this going on."

I now let that person call me.

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Posted by MrsPJB2007

concerning you being childless.

Nothing like a good vent of the stupid things people say!

DH's dad told us that we need to have kids, cause "Whose gonna live your life for you--that's what kids are for, you have them and they continue to live your life for you"

Um--aren't you supposed to live YOUR life--helloooo!?

Oh and when he realized I'm turning 30 this year he looked at me and said "Omg--you think its OKAY to have a baby after 30?!?!?!?!!!"

He was waiting for me to be embarassed or something, and was quite angry when I said that I knew plenty of people who have babies in their 30's.

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Posted by JennyPenny
Aren't you TTC?

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I decided in my early 20's that motherhood was not for me. It never really bothered me when someone would ask about having kids - I would just say I decided not to (most of the time in a way that would end the questioning).

I got a few "When you meet the right person, you'll change your mind" remarks. I would reply that the right person for me doesn't want to have children.

One person I worked with expressed complete shock when I said I didn't want to have children and said she felt sorry for people that don't have children.

I've gotten a couple of comments along the lines of that why am I bothering to be married if I am not going to have kids.

"You don't know love until you've loved a child."

I realize that this is probably more a testament to how much they love their children. But when said in response to me stating that we made a conscious decision not to have children, it sounds more like an insult.

If I respond that I love my nieces and nephews, I'm told "It's not the same." Then I feel pitied, and I want none of that.

Greenfreak - I got that same statement from the person at work. I know how it was intended but it sounds like one of those backhanded compliments people make too.

we havent even been married for a year yet... so i dont really get any questions except for "so do you know how long you are going to wait?"

"You don't really love him then", meaning DH.

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Posted by baghag

"You don't really love him then", meaning DH.

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Posted by baghag

"You don't really love him then", meaning DH.

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hmm where should I begin?

Do it now! When you have kids, you'll have no time no money etc.

People consider us "single" since we are childless.....no actually we are married.

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Posted by baghag

"You don't really love him then", meaning DH.

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You need to be young to have kids because being old having kids isn't good for them.

FH and I aren't married yet, but we already know we don't want kids. One of our family friends told me I was "shelfish" when I told her my reasons for not wanting them.

You have to give your parents grandchildren.

Um no- I wasn't put on this earth so my parents could have grandchildren- I was put on this earth so my parents could have children. It ends there....