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Twice in one week ....

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Bops

Maybe the whole "bump on the head" thing that my SD recently had
( thankfully, she is ok Chat Icon ) had a purpose ....My DH spoke to SD twice this week and she was really happy to speak to him each time, and today when she spoke to him, her mother, although home, was pre-occupied apparently on her cell phone ( DH heard her arguing with somone or another in the background, what else is new Chat Icon ) and my SD was totally relaxed, chatting up a storm, not giving the regualr yes/no answers like when BM is hovering over her and , DS even got to talk to her on the phone Chat Icon ....She again said on her own free will, tell everyone I love them and miss you guys...Dh told her he would call her again during the week and he now has her cell phone # ( she inherited her BM old one ),,,This is a major step ...On their last conversation my DH said to my SD, I'm going to call you on Saturday, to see how your doing and just to say hello, I don't want you to be worried about me asking you if you want to visit ok ?? And she said "I know" - Maybe, him saying that put her at ease that she wouldn't have to be put in a position again by BM- who knows, whatever it was this is a good thing...Phone, mail its a step and then if in the future she decides to come around, whether it be for lunch or for a few hours that that will be great, we aren't going to start pushing visitation- ...Baby steps, and hopefully BM doesnt sabotage it again , I;m hoping now that she is almost 11. she is starting to think on her own a little more and will start to tell right from wrong Chat Icon Thanks for listening to me Chat Icon !

 
Posted 11/22/08 11:37 AM
1stimemom

Great news!!! Baby steps..Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon opefully she will come to visit soon!!Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 11/22/08 2:15 PM
Lucky2008

That is wonderful...I am happy that your DH and DS were able to chat with her. You are definately making progress. And the more frequently DH talks to her she will want to come for a visit at some point.

 
Posted 11/22/08 6:15 PM
AnaMaree77

That's great!! Definitely baby steps, but it will all work out ok! Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 11/23/08 8:27 PM
KimberlyScott

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Posted 11/24/08 12:37 PM
hbugal

That is such great news.....

My girls are almost 10...and I have to tell you...that at their age they are definitely starting to see everyone for their true colors.....

 
Posted 11/25/08 11:18 AM
Bops


Posted by hbugal

That is such great news.....

My girls are almost 10...and I have to tell you...that at their age they are definitely starting to see everyone for their true colors.....



Thanks Chat Icon Thats what I was hoping- I always try to remember what it was like to be that age and when I started to really think independently, but I can't remember ....

(welcome back by the way Chat Icon Chat Icon )

 
Posted 11/25/08 1:46 PM