Doesn't every 11 year old girl need....
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| Bops |
You are so right, that is exactly what my DH and I say that one day when she matures, she will understand what an evil thing her mother has done to her and DH. She is 13 which is a tough age to begin with but add that to the situation and it is so much worse. Right now she is not speaking to DH and like you said, so much time is being lost. How is your SD's relationship with your son? Well until she stopped visiting ( at age 8) she adored my DS...She was in his life until he was about 13 months old regularly...Then as I've mentioned, BM, I assume felt threatened that my SD had a family outside of her and it went down hill from there...My DS knows of her and there are pictures of her and them together all around the house...We send cards to her from him ( who knows if she ever gets them though  ) and also pictures of him....We had made my SD a photo album of her and my DS and right in front of my SD, the BM handed it back to my DH and she said she didnt want pics of him in her house- so I seriously doubt she ever gets the ones we have mailed but we keep trying anyway, in the hopes it gets to her somehow...Now we have another baby on the way, maybe that will spark her interest enough to want to come around to meet he/she but I'm doubting she will, even if deep down she wants to....13 is a very hard age, even for parents who are not split...I feel for you as well and hope that your SD will come around 
Posted 10/17/08 3:46 PM |
| Lucky2008 |
She handed it back and said she didn't want pics of him in her house???? That is a horrible thing to say when referring not only to a child but her daughter's brother! What did your DH say to her? Posted 10/17/08 3:56 PM |
| legallyblonde |
Okay, after reading that article and your's and lucky's posts, I'm not going to complain about BM anymore (well, not as much! Posted 10/17/08 4:18 PM |
| 1stimemom |
What a frigginn pig!!!! Even the evil BM I deal with wouldn't do this *i think) 
Posted 10/17/08 4:33 PM |
| Bops |
My DH is very non-confrontational- he said nothing, took it back and shook his head ...My SD standing at the door while she did it is disgusting....BM always stressed to my SD that our DS is her "half' brother, meanwhile, my SD has no 'full" siblings, her older sister is a "half" as well- This is also something i think is dispicable- A sibling is a sibling, half , full whatever- and the more people to love and the more people to love you is what should matter, not a title... Sounds like we live parallel lives-you and I DH and I started dating when my SD was about 4 months old...2 years later we bacame engaged, 1 year later got married and right before the wedding the BM went totally loony- SD was supposed to be our flower girl- she decided last minute to not let her be at the wedding unless she was invited ( over my VERY dead body would BM be at my wedding) She wrote DH a letter saying that she was afraid that we would "abduct' her the day of our wedding ( just what I want to do, steal a 3 year old on my wedding day  ) then served him with court for the week of our honeymoon- which my DH had to scramble to postpone, the week before the wedding...Broke into our house, while we were away on our honeymoon(per my SD, "me and mommy took pictures at your house")because BM was trying to say that we had no where for my SD to sleep (at the time we were renting a house) So at 3, my SD started acting out when we picked her up, then eventually it subsided and she was truly happy to come with us...then we got pregnant when SD was 7 - Oh boy- here we go again- BM went totally bonkers all over again and that brings us to where we are at  This is a VERY abbreviated version of a twisted story..
Posted 10/17/08 4:38 PM |
| Bops |
We live about 20 minutes from her- How sad is that, my DH's and DS's flesh and blood living practically around the block and not seeing her- horrible Yes, please feel fortunate that you don't deal with PAS- The $ part and the manipulation from BM is one thing, but when the relationship with the child is at stake, its a whole 'nother story and not one that is in our control- it takes a path all its own ... Posted 10/17/08 4:42 PM |
| Lucky2008 |
Bops, we totally live parallel lives....DH and I just recently got married and BM tried everything possible to prevent SD from participating. The week of our wedding BM and her boyfriend were calling our house harrassing us, then come the day of the wedding, SD was in a bad mood, was pouting and rude to everyone and not cooperative at all(we are sure her mother pumped her up with negativity) and when we came back from our honeymoon, there were papers on our door suing for full custody of SD. Posted 10/17/08 4:49 PM |
| Lucky2008 |
Yes, the PAS is very real and I didn't know what it was until recently and I was like Posted 10/17/08 4:55 PM |
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). I feel so bad for you guys. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you to deal. I would be so resentful and hurt. I can NOT believe she handed that album back to you. What a sicko! 
this is DH's exwife!! It is horrible and the people that suffers the most are the child and the alienated parent. My DH is non-confrontational too sometimes I can't believe what he lets BM get away with.