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It's not nice, but I just can't help it

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MaMaTeenie	I just found out that my SIL's sister is PG and is due the same EXACT day I would have been due. I am happy for her, but I am embarrassed to admit it stung. I feel jealous, sad and a little bitter all at the same time. I heard the news from my SIL who knew I was PG, knew I had mc and knew that was my EXACT due date. It wasn't necessary for her to tell me right now. I just had the mc a week and a half ago and even though I was only 5 wks it still hurt....I never see her sister, couldn't she give me some time. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest...... Posted 10/12/08 3:42 PM
chelle	Posted 10/12/08 4:53 PM
QueSeraSera	That seems really insensitive of her to just drop it on you....she definitely could have given you a little time to work through your own situation. Was she at least sympathetic when she told you? Or did she just tell you in normal conversation like your m/c hadn't even happened? Posted 10/12/08 5:48 PM
MaMaTeenie	Posted by QueSeraSera That seems really insensitive of her to just drop it on you....she definitely could have given you a little time to work through your own situation. Was she at least sympathetic when she told you? Or did she just tell you in normal conversation like your m/c hadn't even happened? No she just announced it to myself and my in-laws who don't even know about the mc which made it even harder and more awkward for me. Posted 10/13/08 7:53 AM
ZOOKIE	some people dont get it . Posted 10/13/08 12:16 PM
Belladonna219	Posted 10/13/08 1:10 PM
MetsGirl07	i answered on the TTC board...but just wanted to say im sorry again ... i know how hard it is... just try and focus on yourself and DH.. Posted 10/13/08 1:11 PM
daisy32	Oh I'm so sorry. It would have stung me too....its not mean its just being human. Posted 10/14/08 5:47 PM
PrincessP	I was preggo and about to share my news the same day my SIl lost hers. I held out a few weeks. Mine is turning 2 next month and they would have been 3 months apart. Its hard...ya never know what the right thing to do is. Since then she has had 2 more. We are surrounded by tons of midgies...LOL Keep your chin up...it will happen again Posted 10/15/08 4:09 PM
dooodles	I am so sorry you were hurt. If someone hasn't gone through the loss of a pg or baby - they really just don't know what to say or when is a good time to say it. I wish she would have given you a little bit more time and been more sympathetic to your feelings Posted 10/16/08 9:35 AM