Working Mom vs Stay at Home mom

Any body have friends on the other end of the spectrum that just Don't understand?

I am really the only one of my friends who is a mom at all. My sister is a SAHM who works part time and my mom was a SAHM when we grew up and my MIL was always a SAHM so its pretty much the norm in my family.

Message edited 5/11/2005 7:48:25 PM.

I have a friend who makes snide comments that I am a SAHM.

My dream is to be a SAHM and so many people have negative things to say to me about it. Commonly everyone tells me to go find another job if I am not happy at my current one. But I like my job. I am in no way looking to be a SAHM because I don't like my work situation.

my dream would be to work part time
But i can't do that..

i have friends on both sides and my SAHF is the most judgemental actually...

she thinks it is wrong to have your child raised by someone else

BUT since talking about TTC she is coming around actually

I don't think that a lot of people understand until you atually go throught it.
I love taking care of my daughter but it has definitely been a hard adjustment to make since I have always been so independent.
It's not an easy task, I would love to continue to be but I'm not sure for how long since it's been tight with only one person working.

I'm not sure about being a sahm but I would love to work p/t. However, with housing prices the way that they are it just doesn't seem possible.

I heard on the radio the other day that a SAHM's job totals about $143,000 a year!

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Posted by btrflygrl

I heard on the radio the other day that a SAHM's job totals about $143,000 a year!

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I would LOVE to be a SAHM, but I'm just not sure if it's an option.

I've heard both sides of it.... when you're PG, people always ask - "So, are you going to come back to work or stay at home?"

When I tell people that of course I'm coming back to work, I get both kinds of reactions. I get the people who say "oh good" and mean it and then there's the people that say "Oh, that's too bad that you can't afford to stay home" which REALLY pisses me off because why do people immediately assume that if you don't want to stay home it's because you can't afford to??

I plan on working p/t when we decide to have children.
I can understand both extremes. I would not want a stranger raising my children, but I wouldn't want to be trapped inside the house all day either. Working p/t sounds like a good compromise for me.

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Posted by Redhead

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Posted by btrflygrl

I heard on the radio the other day that a SAHM's job totals about $143,000 a year!

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how was that calculated...
is the cost of the child products in that?

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I would love to me a SAHM but it isn't possible right now. Myy sister has no choice but to be a SAHM because her son has alot of medical stuff that they are still working through....she tells me that I am lucky that I get to get out of the house...especially in the winter months. But Honestly I wouldn't work if I didn;t have my mom to watch the little guy....We went to through too much with our baby to leave him with just anyone...he still needs some special care and right now I only trust certian people to give that to him.

Most people don't comment on me being a SAHM. I have one friend who is a SAHM who works part time and she is constantly trying to get me to find a PT job. But her mom takes care of her son while she's at work, my mom works full time, so it's just not a option.

I would love to be a SAHM but it's not in the budget! My best friend is a SAHM and loves it. But we always fight about which job is harder.

I think that being a SAHM is harder in its own way and there is obviously responsibility involved, but I definitely feel like I have more stress and pressure than she does. She just says that "I'll see when I have kids" but I still think it would be better to be a SAHM than to work out of the house full time, with a boss, deadlines, etc.

I am a SAHM and I love it. Some days are hard don't get me wrong but I wouldn't give it up for anything.

I get a lot of garbage from people about it though like I don't "work". Believe me I do. It's like they think I stay home and watch TV all day. Do a lot of you get that or just me?

I don't think it's wrong of mother's to work at all. Everyone does what they need or want to do but I just really wish they would also respect my choiceas well.

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Posted by dawn0717

I am a SAHM and I love it. Some days are hard don't get me wrong but I wouldn't give it up for anything.

I get a lot of garbage from people about it though like I don't "work". Believe me I do. It's like they think I stay home and watch TV all day. Do a lot of you get that or just me?

I don't think it's wrong of mother's to work at all. Everyone does what they need or want to do but I just really wish they would also respect my choiceas well.

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I really think it's a personal choice for each family. Like some of you have said, $$ is a deciding issue. I have friends on both sides and I see from my friends that the SAHMs are more into family life, making sacrifices while some of the working moms I know are doing it to continue their lifestyle (2 cars, vacations, Louis Vuitton bags, etc) or to continue their careers.

My personal choice is to be a SAHM, I hope that when that day comes DH and I are in a position to make it happen.

My husband says he would work 3 jobs so that I could be a SAHM, he knows how important is is to me. Most of my friends who have children are SAHM.