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dm24angel

I dont want to Chat Icon

I just started a new P/T job a few weeks ago at the Hospital taking the newborn baby pictures. Of all JOBS! Chat Icon

Its super flexible, good money and I need the money.

I took last week off and asked for this week too and hopefully my boss will say ok and I will go back next monday.

Im so scared emotionally how I will handle it Chat Icon

ETA- I quit Chat Icon I couldn't do it. Was feeling physically sick thinking about it. I feel like a failure. Dont feel better at all having made that decision.

Message edited 10/6/2008 9:43:42 AM.

 
Posted 9/29/08 5:45 PM
Lizzy

Going back to work is never easy. Especially if people you worked with knew you were preggo. Chat Icon

But your job has to be especially emotionally gut renching. Take the time you need to heal emotionally. I hope you boss will let you off Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/29/08 6:27 PM
QueSeraSera

I can't think of a harder job to go back to.....I hope your boss does right by you.Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/29/08 7:35 PM
Sneezy

Wow. That is a rough job.

My only advice is that you should think of DS and how lucky you know you are to have him. You don't know if any of those moms struggled the same way.

Good luck.

 
Posted 9/29/08 10:49 PM
dm24angel


Posted by Sneezy

Wow. That is a rough job.

My only advice is that you should think of DS and how lucky you know you are to have him. You don't know if any of those moms struggled the same way.

Good luck.



Thats what I have been keepign in my head. I was getting so excited two weeks ago seeing them all ( the babies) and it was getting me so happy and hopeful and now the feeling is so dreadful Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/29/08 11:21 PM
Gertyrae

Look at it this way - it will be your baby being photographed in the future. You know it will happen again. You have so many options ahead of you.

In the meantime, the $$ you will make at this job will help you get ready for that baby and give you the opportunity to do things for Noah that you otherwise wouldn't have been able to do.Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/30/08 7:00 AM
daisy32


Posted by Gertyrae

Look at it this way - it will be your baby being photographed in the future. You know it will happen again. You have so many options ahead of you.

In the meantime, the $$ you will make at this job will help you get ready for that baby and give you the opportunity to do things for Noah that you otherwise wouldn't have been able to do.Chat Icon



That was put beautifully and I couldnt agree more Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/30/08 8:24 AM
dm24angel

Good news is my boss is awesome and said no problem, so now I just need to mentally get ready for Monday.

Normally I would just say forget this, its not worth it, but I need the money and I just pray this is worth it emotionally.

I feel myself getting very numb lately.

 
Posted 9/30/08 8:31 AM
MetsGirl07

i know it must be so hard for you to go back to work... especially for what you will be doing...but like Gerty said.. you are taking pics of your future baby.. this it what you have to look forward to!

i was hard for all of us to go back to work .. i know the first week was the worst for me...but it got better with time... so i know that you will be ok!! Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 9/30/08 11:58 AM
JennyPenny

I had to go back to work as a head teacher in a daycare center. My kids were 15-24 months, but I was right next door to the infant room. It was rough.

 
Posted 9/30/08 1:45 PM
dm24angel

Going back tommorow.

I have been so sick all day ( all weekend really) thinking about it. Im so scared and filled with anxiety. I'm afraid I'm gonna have a panic attack when I get there.

I keep thinking people must work around babies who have M/C's and I'm not the first, but Its breaking my heart to think about doing this and seeing all the babies tommorow. Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/5/08 10:56 PM
MrsMessina

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Good luck tomorrow. I hope you find peace with going there, knowing that you are already starting to plan for your next little one by taking these steps. Chat Icon I will be thinking of you and praying for you.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/5/08 11:34 PM
jam11308

Good luck tomorrow Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/6/08 7:33 AM
Porrruss

Don't feel bad about quitting Donna. You have to protect yourself emotionally first and foremost.Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/6/08 12:40 PM
MrsRbk


Posted by Porrruss

Don't feel bad about quitting Donna. You have to protect yourself emotionally first and foremost.Chat Icon



ITA!

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Posted 10/6/08 3:47 PM
MrsMessina


Posted by MrsRbk


Posted by Porrruss

Don't feel bad about quitting Donna. You have to protect yourself emotionally first and foremost.Chat Icon



ITA!

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Me too. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Take the time that you need to start to heal. A job is just a job - at the end of the day it's not important... you and your family are. Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/6/08 4:32 PM
faithann

You did the right thing!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/6/08 4:34 PM
QueSeraSera

Don't be so hard on yourself. You can only take so much- being in that position would have been a constant reminder of what happened. Chat Icon That's not what you need as you are trying to move on.

 
Posted 10/6/08 4:59 PM
dm24angel

Thank you guys. Thankfully it was p/t and wasnt like I was used to having that $$ or anything, it was just so hard to "give up" so to speak and I was just emtionally a mess over it. My boss was SOOOO understanding, that it made it easier.

I had to think future wise if I tried to have another baby and it happened again or was difficult, could I deal with this on a daily basis.

I think I made the right decision. Thanks for the words of support! Chat Icon

 
Posted 10/6/08 7:08 PM
when

Wow! You are lucky!
I work for a baby magazine....so I feel your pain.
I would never quit my job though; that would never even occur to me; i love it....and I need to pay the mortgage!
If you have the $ to quit your job, then whatever makes you feel better.....I'm sure you will find a different photography job quickly.

 
Posted 10/7/08 7:53 PM
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