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| MetsGirl07 |
i am taking this month off of TTC... i am just not doing so good again... i thought i was getting better... but this month of OCT.. is just going to kill me 
Posted 9/29/08 10:46 AM
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| daisy32 |
I'm so sorry Deanna  But you're a really strong girl and you'll get through this...I know you will  You've come so far already sweetie
Posted 9/29/08 11:11 AM
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| IrishLass |
Deanna, I'm sorry!!! I won't be taking a break until the RE says I have exhausted the clomid and I have to move onto IVF. HOpefully it doesn't ahve to get that far! 
Sorry about your Mets too!
Posted 9/29/08 11:14 AM
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| davenjess |
you are going to be okay, you have the love of more people than you think possible...
we will get you through the month of october, even if it means doping you up for it!
(i won't hesitate to use drugs, that's right...i said it!)
Posted 9/29/08 11:16 AM
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| MetsGirl07 |
yea the mets losing doesnt help the fact im feeling down..
thanks girls.. i just feel that i get strong.. then i go back to feeling upset ...
sometimes i feel that people think i should be over this already... but its just not possible for me.. i tried.. i really did.. but i feel empty... and its almost a year later already.
ughhh.. i need to snap out of it.
Posted 9/29/08 11:21 AM
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| daisy32 |
Posted by MetsGirl07
yea the mets losing doesnt help the fact im feeling down..
thanks girls.. i just feel that i get strong.. then i go back to feeling upset ...
sometimes i feel that people think i should be over this already... but its just not possible for me.. i tried.. i really did.. but i feel empty... and its almost a year later already.
ughhh.. i need to snap out of it.
Please please please do not give it a second thought to the notion that people think that you should just "get over it already". Who the hell cares what people think!! Until they have walked a mile in your shoes they cannot judge. You are handling the best you can right now. Its completely understandable that Oct is going to be difficult for you and anyone who doesnt understand that can go to he!!
You'll get through this...I promise
Posted 9/29/08 11:27 AM
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| IrishLass |
Deanna, don't ever put pressure on yourself to "get over it". You will never ever truly feel over it, a piece of it will always stay with you, it's impossible to completely let it go. I don't mean that to be a downer! There will be better days and ok days and days that stink.
I had been having better days and today I am having one that totally stinks as far as "getting over it". I am so NOT over it today.
You will get to a peaceful place, I promise.
Posted 9/29/08 11:30 AM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by daisy32
Posted by MetsGirl07
yea the mets losing doesnt help the fact im feeling down..
thanks girls.. i just feel that i get strong.. then i go back to feeling upset ...
sometimes i feel that people think i should be over this already... but its just not possible for me.. i tried.. i really did.. but i feel empty... and its almost a year later already.
ughhh.. i need to snap out of it.
Please please please do not give it a second thought to the notion that people think that you should just "get over it already". Who the hell cares what people think!! Until they have walked a mile in your shoes they cannot judge. You are handling the best you can right now. Its completely understandable that Oct is going to be difficult for you and anyone who doesnt understand that can go to he!!
You'll get through this...I promise
aww thats so sweet of you !!
i need to stop being sensitive and not care what people think..
Posted 9/29/08 11:43 AM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by IrishLass
Deanna, don't ever put pressure on yourself to "get over it". You will never ever truly feel over it, a piece of it will always stay with you, it's impossible to completely let it go. I don't mean that to be a downer! There will be better days and ok days and days that stink.
I had been having better days and today I am having one that totally stinks as far as "getting over it". I am so NOT over it today.
You will get to a peaceful place, I promise.
oh ..i am sorry you are having a bad day too... i hate that we feel this way.. and it really does break my heart that all of you are going through the same.. so many of us actually..
i am glad that we can talk to each other and make each other smile
Posted 9/29/08 11:45 AM
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| daisy32 |
no prob....I'm just an FM away if you need to talk 
Posted 9/29/08 11:50 AM
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| sleepie76 |
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
Posted 9/29/08 12:54 PM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by sleepie76
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
i give you alot of credit for waiting that long... i wish i had the willpower..
so yea october will be hard... but at least i can celebrate my birthday ... then after this month is over.. i just have a feeling that i will have a little bit more closure..
i hate constantly thinking in my head which week i "should" be in.. or how long i have left... etc..
Posted 9/29/08 1:04 PM
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| sleepie76 |
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by sleepie76
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
i give you alot of credit for waiting that long... i wish i had the willpower..
so yea october will be hard... but at least i can celebrate my birthday ... then after this month is over.. i just have a feeling that i will have a little bit more closure..
i hate constantly thinking in my head which week i "should" be in.. or how long i have left... etc..
You will DEFINATELY be in a better place aftre this month ends.
Atleast I was. it's closure.
I planned on waiting 6 months, but then things came up or I wasn't ready, felt nervous/anxious.
DH actually originally said we should take a break because he felt 2 miscarriages in 4 months was alot on my body. He told me to tell him when i was ready and he never mentioned it again. He looked so happy when I told him recently I was ready
Posted 9/29/08 1:15 PM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by sleepie76
Posted by MetsGirl07
Posted by sleepie76
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
i give you alot of credit for waiting that long... i wish i had the willpower..
so yea october will be hard... but at least i can celebrate my birthday ... then after this month is over.. i just have a feeling that i will have a little bit more closure..
i hate constantly thinking in my head which week i "should" be in.. or how long i have left... etc..
You will DEFINATELY be in a better place aftre this month ends.
Atleast I was. it's closure.
I planned on waiting 6 months, but then things came up or I wasn't ready, felt nervous/anxious.
DH actually originally said we should take a break because he felt 2 miscarriages in 4 months was alot on my body. He told me to tell him when i was ready and he never mentioned it again. He looked so happy when I told him recently I was ready
omg.. that is incredibly sweet how your DH said to wait and tell him when you are ready.... and even cuter that he is all excited again!! 
Posted 9/29/08 1:45 PM
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| JennyPenny |
Posted by sleepie76
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
I completely agree with this. You need to be in a good place physically...but much more important- mentally. I took long breaks and every other month breaks because month after month of failure will hurt you. You need to be okay with what happened, and not want to cry about it all the time. And that WILL happen- I promise you. It took me about a year, also, and yes- sometimes I get sad and cry a little, but i've come to terms with it. If you haven't or can't yet, then IMO- you SHOULD take a break for a couple of months. Go to the doctor- get your preliminary testing done, exercise, eat healthy. By the end of 2 or 3 months you will feel better, and hopefully have a different outlook.
This is how I healed- I am not saying it to be mean, but to be helpful.
Posted 9/29/08 3:04 PM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by JennyPenny
Posted by sleepie76
I took a 9 month break from my second miscarriage. Doctor told me to wait 3 cycles. I wasn't ready mentally.
I could handled a successful pregnancy, but not another failed one.
It was definately the right decision for me. We are trying again & i'm excited.
i'm also in a good place regarding the miscarriages. I'm over it and only think about it occasionally.
you're young, take a break for a couple months. You could enjoy the holidays and start fresh in the new year? If it happens during your break..great!!
I completely agree with this. You need to be in a good place physically...but much more important- mentally. I took long breaks and every other month breaks because month after month of failure will hurt you. You need to be okay with what happened, and not want to cry about it all the time. And that WILL happen- I promise you. It took me about a year, also, and yes- sometimes I get sad and cry a little, but i've come to terms with it. If you haven't or can't yet, then IMO- you SHOULD take a break for a couple of months. Go to the doctor- get your preliminary testing done, exercise, eat healthy. By the end of 2 or 3 months you will feel better, and hopefully have a different outlook.
This is how I healed- I am not saying it to be mean, but to be helpful.
Jen, you are never mean... dont think that way!
i probably do need this..
i think my plan is to just not be careful.. just BD whenever and see what happens..
Posted 9/29/08 3:17 PM
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| faithann |
I'm not taking a break- I haven't even gotten to start TTC after my m/c yet. I'm going to be taking a laid back approach for a few months, then get back into it again.
Posted 9/29/08 3:33 PM
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| JennyPenny |
Posted by MetsGirl07
Jen, you are never mean... dont think that way!
i probably do need this..
i think my plan is to just not be careful.. just BD whenever and see what happens..
I just always hope you don't take my words the wrong way.
I know you will be fine- but it's sometimes hard to see that in the midst of it all. I think that BDing casually for a few months will do wonders for your emotional health- instead of obsessing over it. If nothing comes of that- then stat fresh in January- see an RE, just make the appointment soon so you have it in place already. Then just go with the flow and hope that you'll be able to cancel that appointment. The year will be over before you know it- and then we can all start fresh again.
Posted 9/29/08 3:48 PM
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| MetsGirl07 |
Posted by JennyPenny
Posted by MetsGirl07
Jen, you are never mean... dont think that way!
i probably do need this..
i think my plan is to just not be careful.. just BD whenever and see what happens..
I just always hope you don't take my words the wrong way.
I know you will be fine- but it's sometimes hard to see that in the midst of it all. I think that BDing casually for a few months will do wonders for your emotional health- instead of obsessing over it. If nothing comes of that- then stat fresh in January- see an RE, just make the appointment soon so you have it in place already. Then just go with the flow and hope that you'll be able to cancel that appointment. The year will be over before you know it- and then we can all start fresh again.
i never take anything you say the wrong way.... you are a HUGE help to me.. i appreciate everything, and always want the truth and not what i want to hear
you know, i seem to be doing good on the TTC board as far as not obsessing... i tend to chat more i think,, and just answering the questions girls have.. so that right there is an accomplishment for me. .. as crazy as that sounds  
but i will be ok.. i know after seeing my doctor the end of the month will even help me... peace of mind also..
(i am seeing him for my abnormal cycles) then i am casually going to bring up the pregnancy issue.
but i completely agree with everything you are saying... and its probably what i need..
Posted 9/29/08 3:57 PM
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| Dani922 |
My due date would've been coming up soon too. I'm so sorry.
Posted 9/29/08 4:22 PM
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