I did it, I sent BM an email to tell her how upset I am

a mini update, DH had a long phone chat with BM today. She was telling him all of her troubles-no money, husband switched careers, might short sell her house, she's exhausted from her new job, SD is being bad there too.
She told DH that she was very upset by my email, I ripped her apart. She obvisously made him feel bad for her because he never read it & assumed that she wasn't exagerating. She told him in years past she would have called or emailed to put me in my place but she doesn't have the energy with all that she has going on in her life now.

SD beeped in on their call & started giving DH attitude when he was telling her to be nice to her mother & he was trying to explain the severity of the situation her mother is in & that SD needs to stop expecting her mother to buy her crap & spend tons of money on her. Well she made like she didn't want to hear it & he blew a gasket on her.
He told her she needs to stop coming home & b*tching about how bad things are at school & complaining about everything in the world. He told her everyone is tired of her $hit & today she better go home with a smile & ask her mother if there was anything she could do to help out. He told her he would call to follow up which he did.
SD isn't bad now because BM is too busy, she's bad now because she was allowed to be bad from a very young age. Its just biting BM & my DH in the *** now.

I don't understand why she interpretted that email as you ripping her apart? I guess hearing/reading about your child's deficiencies can be a reflection upon yourself but really? She is having the same problems with her so I don't understand how she couldn't understand where you were coming from and taking it as a personal attack on her. I hope things get better soon!

Wow - sounds like SS. But I don't talk to or email his mother... that's for DH to contend with. I didn't marry the b*tch. I know - go ahead and flame me... but I was giving OP credit. I think SS is rude as heck to DH's family - if they don't step up and do something about it - it's not my place and I just end up upset and the drama unleashes. You go though - that was very well written!! SS's BM wouldn't be able to read words that big anyway