Whispered Words Of Wisdom: Motherly Advice On Modern Marriage

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By Mia Bolaris-Forget

We’ve all either been part of or know of someone who’s experienced a romance that was, well, less than romantic. And, some may even be wondering (at least from time to time) what happened to the passion and pleasure in their relationship. Well, just in time for mother’s day, some experts say we can take some cues from our mom’s and/or their mom’s before them.

· Become less “short-sighted”: It’s been said that when we look right in front of us, we often miss out on seeing the many wonderful colours that contribute to the beautiful “piece of artwork” we call our relationship, leading us to only wind up seeing “red”. Turn the red back in a burning passion by shifting your perspective and perception. Make a list of all your mate’s positive qualities instead and practice an attitude of gratitude for the things that flamed the fire in the first place.

· Talk the talk without walking the walk: Successful marriages were built on staying power. That doesn’t mean you can’t go for a walk or a drive, but it DOES mean that at some point you need to calmly talk about and resolve your issues before they get so big you don’t want to walk, but rather RUN away. Some suggest never letting tempers flare, and if and when they do, asking your partner for a “take two”, or a “do-over” so you can rephrase your thoughts to come across more logically and lovingly. Remember, it’s not always what you say, but how you say it, including your body language and your willingness not to just roll your eyes and walk away.

· Give Your Partner A Peace Of Your Mind: Don’t only approach your mate when he or she did or is doing something disapproving or wrong. Instead think about paying compliments often, even if its just to say thanks for putting the dishes away (even if he or she did it “wrong”, and it was agreed to be part of his or her daily duties). Reminding your partner that you appreciate them being a team player and that you DO notice the nice things he or she attempts to do can build strong bonds and can be s huge mental turno

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